Comments on: Got Me Some Of That Closure http://www.blisstree.com/articles/got-me-some-of-that-closure/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:53:35 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Heather http://www.blisstree.com/articles/got-me-some-of-that-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-359881 Heather Sun, 12 Jul 2009 05:03:05 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=98786#comment-359881 To answer your question, the whole moving out of state thing was what made him decide to break up with me, or so he told me when we broke up. (He found out he'd been accepted to a Lutheran seminary out-of-state about a week after we started officially dating.) When he ended up with a new girlfriend a few weeks later, I began to have serious doubts about that excuse (and about everything I'd ever thought about him). That hurt me worse than the break-up, quite honestly. But he's no longer with that girlfriend and he's no longer in the same state. And I'm not sure if I have closure or not. Luckily, I'm back to normal 95% of the time. It's just the other 5% of the time, I wonder about closure. To answer your question, the whole moving out of state thing was what made him decide to break up with me, or so he told me when we broke up. (He found out he’d been accepted to a Lutheran seminary out-of-state about a week after we started officially dating.) When he ended up with a new girlfriend a few weeks later, I began to have serious doubts about that excuse (and about everything I’d ever thought about him). That hurt me worse than the break-up, quite honestly. But he’s no longer with that girlfriend and he’s no longer in the same state.

And I’m not sure if I have closure or not. Luckily, I’m back to normal 95% of the time. It’s just the other 5% of the time, I wonder about closure.

]]> By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/got-me-some-of-that-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-356423 Michelle Smith Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:26:50 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=98786#comment-356423 Yes, hooray! I guess it takes me awhile to figure some things out, but eventually I get it. I'm feeling pretty good. Yes, hooray! I guess it takes me awhile to figure some things out, but eventually I get it. I’m feeling pretty good.

]]> By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/got-me-some-of-that-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-356417 Michelle Smith Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:25:14 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=98786#comment-356417 Heather, I think if you are feeling fine without it, then you've probably already got it. :) If you aren't though, give it a try. You could send the email and he wouldn't have to read it if he didn't want to. Right? It doesn't have to be an attack, just a sort of laying out of your feelings. Did he have plans to move out of state before, when you were together? That was fast, either way. Wow. Maybe he's not a stay with it kind of guy anyway. And yes, I do think I've got it pretty good this time. Heather, I think if you are feeling fine without it, then you’ve probably already got it. :) If you aren’t though, give it a try. You could send the email and he wouldn’t have to read it if he didn’t want to. Right? It doesn’t have to be an attack, just a sort of laying out of your feelings. Did he have plans to move out of state before, when you were together? That was fast, either way. Wow. Maybe he’s not a stay with it kind of guy anyway.

And yes, I do think I’ve got it pretty good this time.

]]> By: Leah http://www.blisstree.com/articles/got-me-some-of-that-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-356388 Leah Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:16:16 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=98786#comment-356388 Hooray for closure!!! I'm so glad you "found" it and "got" some for yourself! It really is like a sigh of relief when it comes through, isn't it? Ah, on to bigger and better things now. :) Hooray for closure!!! I’m so glad you “found” it and “got” some for yourself! It really is like a sigh of relief when it comes through, isn’t it? Ah, on to bigger and better things now. :)

]]> By: Heather http://www.blisstree.com/articles/got-me-some-of-that-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-356132 Heather Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:14:27 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=98786#comment-356132 Good to know, Michelle! I think about getting closure with my last boyfriend sometimes, but I'm afraid I wouldn't be brave enough to do it face to face. And I suspect he'd be completely taken aback if I just sent him an e-mail one day telling him all the ways he hurt me. (Although it's really my only option at this point, as he now lives in a different state and it's only minimally possible that I'll ever run into him face-to-face again.) But I am glad you were able to put he-who-shall-not-be-named behind you and move on. You deserve so much better than that! And it sounds like you've got it. :) Good to know, Michelle! I think about getting closure with my last boyfriend sometimes, but I’m afraid I wouldn’t be brave enough to do it face to face. And I suspect he’d be completely taken aback if I just sent him an e-mail one day telling him all the ways he hurt me. (Although it’s really my only option at this point, as he now lives in a different state and it’s only minimally possible that I’ll ever run into him face-to-face again.)

But I am glad you were able to put he-who-shall-not-be-named behind you and move on. You deserve so much better than that! And it sounds like you’ve got it. :)

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