Guy’s POV: The Ladies Asking the Guys Out
August 28, 2007 by Sasha Manuel
Filed under Relationships
I’m sure this is one topic that’s been talked about a hundred of times but I just wanted to share a bit on the conversation I found myself in over the weekend. I was hoping I could share the source’s name but I’m sworn to keep his identity a secret, simply due to privacy. I guess I’ll just have to refer to his as “Mister Logan” (don’t ask, it’s me being cryptic, heh). LOL.
While having coffee with a bunch of guy friends, I presented the question that basically asks this, “What’s your stand if or when a girl asks you out?” And Mister Logan casually and graciously answered it under two scenarios:
Scenario #1
With a girlfriend, attached, committed, espousedMister Logan said he will politely decline for obvious reasons — that he’s already with someone and he’s not the type who would “fool around” so to speak.
Scenario #2
Without a girlfriend, unattached, very much single, free as a birdMister Logan said he’ll accommodate it, if there’s a hint of attraction, he’s fine with the lady asking him out.
Bottomline, Mister Logan is quite flattered either way (status being with or without a girlfriend, I mean). He thinks that it’s quite admirable for a woman to have the boldness to initiate the act, whereas by tradition and norm, it’s always the guy who initiates or asks the girl out. Getting asked is definitely a flattering thing, me thinks, and guys being on the receiving end of something out of the ordinary as this is definitely a special thing.
I guess it’s now quite acceptable to have the tables turned. However, I’m still not quite comfortable with the thought, I can’t think I’d have the courage to do it myself but perhaps it can work for other women.
What about you, ladies? Will you ask a guy out? Do you think it acceptable, too? Have you been in a situation wherein you asked a guy out? Share!
What about the rest of the guys who read Dating Dames? What do you think about us women asking you guys out?
I am a guy. So I’m standing from a guy’s point of view.
My first girlfriend is the one who started to approach me first. What she did was:
She is in a same seminar with me. She fall in love with me the first day(this is what she told me). Then she just be around me in the course. Every time she sees me, she just smile happily. That looks abnormal for me because there are only few friends (girls) I know very well will do that.
The first day was my birthday. She didn’t know that. So, she wish me happy birthday the second day and give me a letter. In that letter, she said she feel happy to have me as a friend. She say she feel like I’m her brother.
But until the third day, she told me that she likes me in a very embarrassing way. And she get my phone number. And… We started the relationship.
So… For woman, don’t feel that you have less value when you are the first one who tell the man. In fact, I love her and care about her very much. I feel she have more value than me because she have the courage and confidence to express her love. That’s attractive!!!
Attractive for a woman to express love!!!
I am 53yrs old but I’m just gonna jump in here too. You see I had been married for over 33 years when out of the blue my husband left me for a younger girl. Shocked doesn’t come close to telling you how I felt. I refused to go anywhere,talk to anyone,or do anything. After months and months of this my darling daughter instisted I get out and do something. I could think of only person I wanted to see and I had not seen this man in 2 years. I called him(thank goodness he was not at home!!)and asked him out to dinner. To my amazment he called me back and was surprised at my offer. He said that he would take me up on the dinner but said he wanted to take me out for drinks after that. The long and short of it, that was 2 1/2 years ago. Every since then we have been by each others side. He opened a whole new world for me. Everything form teaching me about auctions to going to Taladaga for the races.That is the best phone call I have ever made and I am still smiling!!! I belive it doesn’t matter who does the asking but more about how you feel about each other.
I would definitely have the guts to ask a guy out but from everything I’ve experienced it turns the guys off, they like the chase…so it’s a struggle for me to sit there and wait around for them to call me for a second date when I’d normally have no problem doing it myself…It’s only when I sit back and wait that I usually get asked out again (and I usually am not that interested)…its not right!