Hearing Versus Listening

What’s the difference?

Every couple’s communication lies not just in the actual “uttering” of the matter that needs said but in the reception. Do we hear the voice, sound or words? Or do we listen to the heart of the statement?

Sometimes, we often confuse things. Interpretations vary. You may see it as him being irrational and unresponsive while he can view you as selfish and paranoid. You may think that she’s simply being possessive while she may think that you’re simply being a jerk.

Can we stop and think why these things happen?

If only we can actually see the situation in our partner’s POV. Step outside of ourselves and see to heeding their needs. Perhaps you can see that it’s his nature to be practical even when you do have impractical emotional needs. Maybe you are indeed a jerk and it makes her actions similar to a “possessive” woman.

Does the answer lie on the words? Not just. Sometimes, we can’t stop with just hearing but move on to really listening. Esp if we want to sort things out.