Help: He’s a Bad Kisser
August 29, 2008 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
Say you get lucky during eHarmony’s free communication weekend. You find the man of your dreams, but the kiss of your nightmares. What’s a girl to do? Here are some tips to help you with a less than stellar kisser:
Make the first move. If you lead the way, you are more likely to be able to set the tone kissing style-wise. I know it’s not the traditional way to go about things, but I’m a go-for-it girl from way back and I’ve never kissed someone first and not been glad that I did. If it’s great – wonderful – if it’s not, well then you decide if you’ve got something to work with.
Remember that there’s a time and place for everything and an uncomfortable kiss may have less to do with lips and more to do with nerves. Could he just be nervous? If so, then give the boy another chance.
Communicate your kissing desires. Yes, this can be tricky, but if you say something simple like, “Lets take this slow,” you might find that it works. Try a suggestion, not an actual tutorial, but……..
If things are really not going well, you might send him an anonymous tip to check out French Kissing Resources which features a list of how-to links.
Remember, practice makes perfect. For more ideas, I suggest How to Deal With a Bad Kisser – wikiHow and 5 Ways to Fix a Terrible Kisser.
I wish you good luck and great kisses!
The best thing to do is when you are trying to help his technique, not to make it about the fact that he’s doing it wrong, but that you have certain things that turn you on when it comes to kissing.
Great advice, Kristi. Figuring out the approach, that’s probably the hardest part.
A little encouragement goes a long way. Turning it into “hey, lets try this….” makes it fun and takes the pressure off a bit.
Thanks!