Comments on: Helping Teens Through a Pregnancy

By: Terry Candee

Terry Candee — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 06:07:21 +0000

I completely agree with you Christine. Young pregnant girls need to be given all the options and talk to women who chose those options and see how it worked out for them. i would support my daughter- whatever she chose to do. There are many fantastic people in the world who were once “oops” pregnancies. Lance Armstrong for one and his Mom had no support in her decision to keep him.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 19:01:53 +0000

A similiar scenario happened to me as a teenager (age 15 actually). Only my mother told me that SHE was NOT raising another child (she didn’t seem to much like raising the one she had). She never gave me an option and, at that age, I didn’t know I had options. I was just scared out of my wits. Now, I’m the one who has to live with the fact that I had an abortion. Not my mother.

By: Gershom

Gershom — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 17:13:48 +0000

correction * was her last day in my life * in reference to my mom not supporting me in my own pregnancy.

By: Gershom

Gershom — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 17:11:35 +0000

When I found out I was pregnant, the day my mother chose not to support me, was the last day in her life until she came to terms that a real mother, and real grandmother helps their child ( no matter the age ) with their grandchild on the way.

Its not over for justine, You said that it worked out in the end for her, its not nearly the end. Its not even close.

I hold a great deal of pain on my heart due to the fact that MY grandparents were unsupportive of my mother keeping me, which resulted in my own adoption. My mother was “happy” for many years on the outside, given the choice she never would have surrendered me again now that all is said and done. 27 years later her pain and my pain still isn’t gone.

By: pickel

pickel — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 00:42:17 +0000

Adoption is a personal choice, not one that another person can ever make for you, ever. There are so many birth mothers out there now who grieve a decision they made years ago because they were coerced into making the decision either by family members or by adoption agencies.

There are actually adoption agencies that will stalk maternity wards looking for single mothers and will invite themselves into the rooms to talk to them about their parenting plans, as if that is something that should be okay.

I don’t know the entire story here but I hope that Justine was given the chance to chose the adoptive parents, as most birth mothers do. I also hope that she was given counseling from the adoption agency.

And desperate to be parents? Kind of a poor choice of words here. Most adoptive parents are not desperate…it’s just the only way we can build a family.