Her Husband Is Annoying
August 21, 2009 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
Living with another adult is a very challenging thing to do. Every one of us is walking around with a big ol’ bag of quirks slung over our shoulder. The trick is the find the person whose bag you can handle, the person whose quirks don’t send you running from the room in anger and/or frustration.
Tiffanie Wong is a newlywed who writes a blog called My Husband Is Annoying. Within the blog she shares her experiences with husband, Mark Joyella.
Some of his annoying traits appear to be his tendency to continually wear a particular green sweater, his over-use of a fake (bad) Irish accent, his love of fart jokes, basically the usual annoying man stuff.
Sometimes she gets negative feedback from readers who don’t understand why she’s not writing about newlywed-ed bliss, but Wong prefers to keep things realistic. The entries are not attacks. They are light-hearted and I get the feeling that if something was really bothering her, she’d talk to him about it and not the blog.
Annoying or not, Wong loves Joyella and that should be obvious to anyone who reads the blog, because it’s about all about him. I think a sign of trouble would be if, her blog was called something like, My Hot Doorman Is Annoying. Mark is a fan of the blog and apparently has veto power on both posts and photos.
Tiffanie Wong had this to say in an interview with Lemondrop;
“I love him because of his wacky, offbeat sense of humor; because he’s one of the smartest people I know and also one of best people I know.
“But mostly I love him because he totally gets me, loves me for exactly who I am and no matter how annoying I may be, he’d never write a blog about it!”
We had to check in with Mark on that one, and he agrees: “The cool thing about our relationship is we enjoy each other’s dorky quirks and laugh together about them. That’s why I like the blog.”
I think My Husband Is Annoying is a celebration of those quirks. I know that in my relationship, the things that I treasure the most about my boyfriend are the goofy parts of his personality. Our quirks and goofy habits are the things that make us unique. They are what make a person an individual.
Image credit: Michelle Smith
So I ask you this. You don’t think that he gets tired of you to. He has to come home to the same woman EVERY DAY. He has to have sex with the same woman EVERYDAY. I could go on with a lot more but that one sums it up. Trust me he deserves a reward just for getting married and doing that. So please don’t complain and then try and smooth it out like your something special. Just coming from a man that has been married for 16 years. And trust me your VERY ANNOYING to him to. So just get over yourself. And live a blissfull marriage.
This is my first time reading this site(by mistake). This comment is so true. Women tend to forget sometimes that we males have to endure a lot of things when were married. His comment about sex is probably the hardest one. It’s in a male’s DNA to want more than one woman. But when we get married we have to try REALLY HARD to not act on it. I know that most women really think that they have a mate that wouldn’t cheat, but trust me given a chance WE would, if we wouldn’t get caught. It’s really hard having sex with the same woman. I’m sure it’s the same for a woman to, but it’s a little different for a guy.(that dna thing again) Something I have learned in my LONG TIME of being married is that no man will be 100% faithful to thier mate. It’s not going to happen. Something for you women to think about before you try with holding sex from your mate. (If you don’t another woman will) We will give in to temptation eventually. It’s not that we don’t love you, it’s just we have to have something new(different)after a while. I think women sometimes forget to do the things that she did sexually in the begining to get the guy. And once the kids come then that’s were women totally change. And this is were that male dna comes out. This is not a reply to have you second guessing you mate, just a reply to check yourself before you complain about annoying habits. We have have them and I think they are nothing to “BLOG ABOUT”.
Why did you delete the other person’s comment. I know it’s your blog, don’t be scared. He and I are only speaking the truth. Be fare. Only posting what you want. Post the truth to . PLEASE
I did not delete any comments. When I found this thread, I saw you, Dave, and Katy Lin. That’s it. I only delete a comment if it’s spam. Or full of offensive language.
The blog does not belong to me. I am contracted to write it for the company who owns it. I abide by my employer’s rules in regards to comments. I do post what I want. I’m the writer here and why would I write about something that did not interest me? That would not make for a very interesting post.
I am not afraid. I don’t know what post you boys read, but if it was mine, you’d have noticed that I was writing a post about a writer and her blog, not my own. Reread it and you will see what I mean. Better yet, go to the My Husband Is Annoying blog and you will see that Ms Wong loves her husband very much. He’s a writer, as well, and he has full veto power over what she writes.
Again, James, I do not write the My Husband Is Annoying blog. I wrote about that blog for Blisstree Relationships. If you have comments about the My Husband Is Annoying blog and not about how hard it is to have sex with only one woman, you might want to go to My Husband Is Annoying and share them with the writer of that blog.
Wow sounds like somebody wants to cheat on their wife lol. Was that even the topic of this blog?
Dave, are you talking to me or the Ms Wong? I don’t write the My Husband Is Annoying blog. I’m not even married. You might want to visit her and direct your comments to her. She’s not going to see them over here.
I don’t get why so many people out there use how long they’ve been married as a blunt object to hit others over the head with. Coincidentally, I’ve been married for 16 years, also.
Yeah, so what? I’m proud of that, and obviously you are, too. But does that mean we should be throwing it in people’s faces trying to show that our marriages are better than theirs are?
Man-to-man, yeah, the whole monogamy thing is hard. Ain’t a day goes by I don’t want to bed down some cutie I see.
But, again, so what?
What about your wife? You think there hasn’t been even a moment in 16 years you guys were passing by some hot stud and she wished you weren’t around?
huh! i’d never seen this blog before
i think i like it 
Okay…I had to laugh at the responses on your blog. I think these men need to reread what you wrote.
Jackie, I get the impression that they reacted to the title and did not actually read the post.
Michelle,
Thanks for writing such a nice post about my wife’s site. And welcome to the weird world of people who think they know me better than I know myself. As you so perfectly put it, the blog is a celebration of our quirks (and yeah, she has some herself, as we all do) and it was never intended to be anything more than a way to laugh together. And despite the strangely intense (and often extremely personal) nature of commenters here and elsewhere, we’re still busting up laughing, and really, really enjoying hearing from other couples who have the kinds of healthy relationships that let them bust on each other over the silly stuff, but seriously talk about the important stuff. (And the blog, as you point out, isn’t the place for that.)
Thanks again.
Mark
Thanks for commenting, Mark.
I really enjoyed your wife’s blog. It’s obvious that she loves you very much and actually enjoys many of your “annoying” habits. The post about the accent, that seemed so very like the kind of thing my boyfriend would do. He can be very goofy and that’s one of the aspects of his personality that I find most endearing.
Her blog sure brought out the anger in some people. That was pretty nuts. Apparently there are quite a few people out there who have no sense of humor.
I wish you both a long and “annoying” life together! ;D
To the ignorant, male chauvinists–
Your mindset and the mindset of males like you are further perpetuating the divorce and infidelity rate. Of course you would turn a complaint about a husband into something about sex. This has nothing to do with sex, so what are you trying to compensate for? I have a hunch you are feeling insulted by the fact that you aren’t as awesome as you think you are (and that you are probably annoying to your wife like this man is to his.) I suggest you do a little bit of side reading on the male brain as well as the female brain. You are far, far behind in the current psychological studies. Also, aside from reading up on human behavior in general, I would suggest that you re-read this blog. In your haste to get your all-important-male-opinions out there for the world to see, you failed to realize that you have absolutely taken the writer’s blog out of context. If you feel your thoughts are important enough to present to the rest of us, at least be respectful and make sure they are valid and apply to the blog. Otherwise, you are simply wasting everyone’s time.
Thanks.
I agree with you on this gentlemans perspective of how some men think. I thinkk that it is human nature to look at another person, but then where you go with that thought is another story. I have never cheated on my first wife, and am currently wanting to remarry. I have asured my girlfriend that I don’t want another woman, as it would destroy everything we have built together. men show your women how much they mean to you, and it will come back to you.
Michelle, I visited the blog the day you told me about it and have been reading (no I haven’t commented yet) all those funny posts. I agree, you can see how much she loves her NEW hubby and yes, all husbands have annoying qualities but her site is more of a tongue in cheek type of humor. We all get a laugh and she isn’t just slamming him or being hatred, she’s talking about those things that we all think but never state. She’s got guts and humor.
This is a great conversation Michelle! I love the debate!
Me, too! Wish they’d chat like that all the time.