Her Way Sucks, I Prefer His
December 4, 2007 by Tracee Sioux
Filed under Parenting
Yes. This is a photo of me in my favorite underwear.
Yes. They are Hanes Men’s Briefs and they are Mine. My husband enjoys boxer briefs.
I discovered accidentally, about 10 years ago, that men feel entitled to wear comfortable underwear that covers their entire ass. The whole thing.
Can you believe it? They feel entitled to comfortable underwear that covers their whole ass. Both cheeks entirely. They don’t feel they should shrink their ass – they feel the makers of underwear should provide enough fabric to serve its function. I’m just saying – that’s a different relationship than women have with our skivvies.
Think about it, do you ever hear men complain about how their underwear is riding up or visible through their clothes? Do you hear them chatter on about the disappearance of the seam at their crotch in their gym clothes? Or do they have to go without drawers to wear khaki slacks? No. Never. Maybe there is a metrosexual or homosexual out there who is chattering incessantly about his visible panty line, but I have yet to meet him.
Once I made this discovery a decade ago I became oddly entitled. Yes, entitled. Entitled to have underwear that doesn’t ride up my ass or give me a wedgie. I feel my best when I have no need to find a wall to sidle up against to femininely and discreetly tug the panties out of my crack.
My britches should serve their function and I expect a lot from my underwear. I won’t go into great detail, but my underwear should be wide enough at the crotch to compensate for sanitary products, and soak up the tiniest bit of pee that has leaked out when I sneeze since I gave birth to the boy.
My underwear should serve my body. My body should not have to shrink or be sucked in to fit in my underwear.
I have yet to meet a women’s pair of panties that serve any of my required functions.
I jumped out of my chair and ran to get my husband when Sarah Jessica Parker showed up on Sex and the City in her boyfriend’s tighty-whities.
I told you! I’m totally hot! Sarah Jessica Parker somehow found out my tighty-whitie secret!
Yes, I wore them when I was single. No, my husband doesn’t consider it a turn off.
After enduring hysterical laughter and a good humored ridicule – all from my friends, still enslaved by their quest for invisible panty lines and male attention - I decided to give women’s panties another run. Sometimes they make great strides in products when I’m not looking.
I bought this kind and that kind. The boy shorts, the briefs, the thongs, the seamless crotch, the granny panties, the kind made out of lace, cotton, the new kind that’s all one silky piece without any stitching anywhere as if by magic, the suck-it-in kind, the girdle kind.
UGH!
The fact remains, when I want to be really, really comfortable - really entitled to feel like myself – I pull out my good old fashioned men’s Hanes Briefs.
You should try it – your butt will thank you.
I’ll bet Hillary rocks mens briefs.
Best. blog. ever.
I totally agree! I’ve noticed men’s underwear has nice, thick comfortable fabric and a substantial elastic waist band. Women’s underwear is flimsy and crappy. They think we’ll buy anything as long as the slap a few hearts and some lace on it.
They think we’ll buy it because we DO buy it. Worse, we wear it.
I never knew I converted you to men’s underwear. How wonderful!
A friend once died some men’s briefs pink for me for Christmas. It was uber-thoughtful!
I love Hanky Panky.
What a great post Tracee. I am laughing so hard but at the same time thinking “Hmmmmmmm…., should I try it?” This is a fabulous blog.
I thought you were going to say ” a friend once died in men’s underwear.” Man, that *would* suck.
I probably WILL die in men’s underwear – hope they can keep a straight face during the embalming.
Thanks Julie. You really should try it. Who’s it going to hurt?
Someday I really am going to try the Hanky Panky, Rebecca.
But, they are so expensive I would die if I bought them and it resulted in perma-wedgie (It is a thong and thus far I’m unimpressed). It’s a big risk for $18 panties. And then I have to keep recycling the one pair cause that’s all I can afford. Turning them inside out and all that. Ick.
Ha Ha!
Wow, stumble worthy posts lately. This and the one below. Love them both. You are brave to shoot underwear shots — much braver than I. I like sleeping in guys boxers but I don’t wear them out and about although this post has convinced me to try this out.
I think I’ve only bought the Hanky Pankies on sale for $12. I have a limited number of pairs. I need more but have a hard time spending $$ on them. Accordingly, I wash underwear all the time. Probably cheaper just to go get some more … there’s always some on sale at nordstrom.com.
For the most part, I don’t think women’s underwear makers understand the variety of different shapes we are. Most women’s underwear “scoots” on me, like the opposite of a wedgie, so that I get a bunch of extra fabric sagging around my rear. The only brand I’ve found that fits is American Eagle. I’m willing to put up with the silly hearts and goofy sayings on the butt if I can be comfortable.
I think the whole fashion industry makes clothes for the “beauty ideal” and not for women’s real bodies.
We should expect better.
Oh, I just love this post! I always wear men’s sweaters for much the same reasons; they’re more comfortable, they do a really good job of keeping me warm, and they also tend to be cheaper and better made that women’s clothes.
Now you’ve made me want to try the underpants too. I might give it a go!
xx
I gave up on underwear in general when I developed hips at age 12. I just go comando. I will try the guy’s briefs but I bet now that I’m 21 that I’m going to have a hard time feeling comfortable in anything. Thanks for the great post and educated comments
How fun to stumble on this blog while I am sitting here in my bra and panties (my husband’s confiscated briefs). If only every woman knew this! No chaffing! No wedgies! Soft material! Bring on those snickers from the EMT crew when I die…I pick comfort.
Great to meet a fellow sister Leanna! Rock the mens drawers in comfort!
Stumbled across this post just now. Count me in as a fellow tighty whitie wearing female. After trying a variety “boy shorts” I returned to them. The women’s version of men’s underwear is made of thinner less quality material and the waistbands do not hold up. I’ve felt entitled to comfort for a LONG LONG time… my mom let me wear boys drawers when I was a kid because I had such fits about the painful elastic on girls panties.
Tracee, I absolutely love you for posting this! I wear mens undershirts tank tops in the summer, they’re cheaper and often better quality than the woman’s tank tops that I’ve found. Reading this has inspired me to go out and buy some men’s briefs! Thank you!
I’ve always worn men’s sweaters and shirts (they were my maternity tops back in the 80’s when all you could get had HUGE bows on them) and I started wearing men’s undies about 10 years ago when I got a bad sunburn on my butt (yes the bathing suit creeped up) and the elastic on my undies felt like razors cutting my skin. My hubby’s mom had bought him a pack of undies that were a size too small and he just left them in his drawer. I grabbed them and put them on and felt instant relief. I shared my discovery with a coworker who was going through the same pain I was. At first she didn’t believe me but, I showed her the waistband and told her she had to try it. She came in to work the next day and was thrilled to say how comfy she finally was. Men’s undies are the best – comfy and affordable. I
I wear men’s shoes for much the same reason…mainly because they don’t make comfortable women’s shoes in my size. My question is, do they make Men’s underwear in my size. I’m a big beautiful woman with a big beautiful butt and the men’s cut never has fit it. Do the men’s underwear stretch enough to give a comfortable fit for my Rubenesque hiney?
My wife has never tried mine or complained about hers, she wears mostly VS panties. However, a couple of years ago I had a vasectomy, my undewear at the time was mostly boxer briefs. My wife suggested I try her panties. Reluntantly I did, as I wanted to be comforable until things healed. All I can say is wow, her underwear is much more comforatable than any mens underwear I had ever worn. So, I’m on the opposite side of the spectrum here. Now I wear mostly VS under my clothes even for work. Nobody can see, my wife doesnt care, and its very comfortable. I say wear what you want, its only underwear afterall.
I wore them during one of my pregnancies–for two reasons. 1. I didn’t have any clean girl undies and my husband had his. 2. They were extremely comfie.
I felt like I looked like Homer Simpson but I didn’t care. and now that I know there are others who do it too–well, I may have to try it again!
Did Sarah Jessica Parker look like Homer?
No, she was HOT and you are too! (oh, and me too!)
I’ll try that when I’m married
Usually I would buy Hush Puppies’s undies. They have good material.
I’m a boxer-brief gal. Never found more comfy underoos.
My girlfriend wears Hanes all the time. Seems to be her standard. I have no problem with it and don’t question why. I feel sorry for most women, they are held prisoner by vanity and corporations. A woman is not truly liberated if she is under ridicule for doing HER thing. She and I spent 9 months in Alaska. She gave up shaving during that time as most do when its -45. Shaving wasn’t something that crossed her mind when returning to the lower 48. To overhear the cruel comments and to witness the mistreatment of social outcasting. Broke my heart. Through this experience, and being a man. Power to the woman who is independent enough to do her thing. No matter what. Even wearing a pair of Hanes.
Yep I discovered this about too about 15 or so years ago when I was in high school. My mother found out and called me a dyke. But she changed her mind when I bought her a pair and she found the joy.
Ha! I do the same thing! It’s nice to cover your whole butt for a change.
Bleh… Nasteh. Get Victoria’s Secret underwear. ^.^ The PINK kind fit perfectly… at least for me. Maybe it’s because I’m still a teen though…
And don’t worry about how expensive it is, because they almost always have a 5 for $25 thing on their underwear, and you can choose whatever style/color you want. It’s awesome. =D
Yes, it’s probably because you’re still a teen.
Ahhh…thank you so much for writing this blog. I started wearing men’s underwear when I was still a teenager because of painful menstrual cramps; sitting here in my uncomfortable women’s underwear and reading this blog makes me want to start wearing them full-time.
The problem I have been having that keeps me from doing that – and I hope others can give me a few ideas to combat this – is that you can always see the waistband of the briefs over my jeans. It’s not that I *really* care, but, eh, I hang around with other judgmental college-age girls who would rather have style than comfort. Any ideas?
I just bought the Hanes Men’s Bikini Briefs for the same reason.
I have been wearing men’s briefs since high school…but at that time I was wearing boys briefs. I won’t have it any other way!
I never thought of this!
I’ve been putting up with thongs and always assumed my butt was just too big for women’s underwear. Thongs are impractical during “certain times” and generally pretty uncomfortable — thank you, thank you, thank you for the new idea!
I happen to be feminine, and like feeling sexy in female panties.
I have never had a problem with them not fitting correctly.
Sorry!
You are so up my alley, my friend. Next x-mas party the undies on my freakin tree are gonna be men’s. Cant’ wait to see the chicks bawk at that.
Thanks for checking out my blog.
I have no ass, no matter which underwear i use, they ALL ride up, I try to stick to thongs because at least that way it seems deliberate and doesn’t make me look like i’m wearing shorts underneath a skirt or jeans.
“I happen to be feminine…”
Subtle slam, you think?
Regardless, kudos to the boxer/brief wearers! I’ll definitely have to try that out. Also, Faceman, your lady is one lucky woman. You sound like a great fellow.
What a wonderful ’stumble’! The husband is looking at me as I wipe tears of laughter from my face now, but wait till he sees me in my tightie whities! I’ve pondered many a day (as I removed my wedgies) why female undies had such tight uncomfortable elastic in the legs and mens comfy cotton undies didn’t (?). They have body parts that will fall out, we don’t!
I am a convert now, it’s off to do some shopping for new drawers, and some fabric dye while I’m at it.
I read this with a little chuckle, because I am just the opposite of you. I am a male that much prefers the female panties! I have been wearing panties for over 4 years now, and will never switch back to the male “tightie whities”. To me the panteis are much more comfortable and they come in so many different styles and fabrics, and colors. I started when my ex poured a bottle full of bleach in my whites just before we split up. My briefs and t-shirts fell apart in my hands and I had to buy new ones. At the time I was wearing a size 56 waist and for those briefs I had to go to a big man’s shop and pay about$30 for a package of two briefs!!! I went to the Hanes outles store to see if they ahd men’s briefs in my size, but alas they did not. I then asked the sales woman if they had any women’s cotton panties that would fit me. She was a little surprised and asked if I was serious, and I sad why not, it is only underwear. So she showed me what she had available and I bought a few packages, if I remember they were about $7 for a package of three. I found that not only did they work, they were a lot more comfortable. I now own about 50 pairs of panties in different styles and fabrics and colors, and wear them 24/7. I wear them to doctors appointmenst, and even had a nurse tell me that she liked my choice in panties. I now am able to wear a size 8 pantie, and yes I could swhitch back to men’s briefs, but panties are just toooo comfortable.
She doesn’t seem to understand that women generally have bigger butts than men and that’s why those droopy men’s briefs cover her whole butt whereas they’re droopy and saggy on most men. Panties fit me better [i]because[/i] they aren’t as droopy. Now, some guys are more plump in the rump but most of us are not. I’m all for women wearing men’s underwear. They can’t deny us panties if they’re wearing ours. I’m sure plenty of women will try to anyway, though. Plus, that means more panties for us to choose from.
She also doesn’t seem to know much about gender, either. Generally men are socialized in a way that discourages complaining about their clothes because that would make them “woman like.” And, of course, much of our society still believes that to be like a woman is to be less of a man. This is why guys don’t generally complain about their clothes or underwear. If a pair of briefs is itching a guy’s balls, he doesn’t complain about it, he just scratches them. And the cotton used in those briefs and boxers are the reason why they’re scratching. Boxers always rode up and briefs were always too itchy. I never get itchy wearing nylon panties and they never ride the way boxers did.
And lastly, [i]Sex In the City[/i] does not empower women. I will repeat this, [i]Sex In the City[/i] DOES NOT empower women. They’re a bunch of middle aged women acting like men. This only reinforces the idea that maleness and masculinity is the “ultimate, higher standard” that all must conform to and sends the message that if women want to succeed in the world they have to conform to the standards of men. But it still keeps femaleness and femininity relegated to that “lesser” position. Like I’ve said a million times, make it socially acceptable for straight men to be feminine in their gender expression and you women will have your equality. It’s not rocket science folks.