Hot Mama
November 23, 2007 by Tracee Sioux
Filed under Parenting
Kate over at Babylune writes about why it’s so hard for Mama to get hot after having children. I kind of like her theory because it’s plausible.
Isuspect that if there is a solution to this dilemma, we won’t find it in popular culture. Sexual desire, sexual politics, firey flirtation and displays of desire are always being played out in front of our eyes. But, those are played out by the young, the single and the physically flawless. What we don’t see are relationships turning in, one person toward another. We don’t see desire developing into devotion. We don’t see intimacy growing into trust, mutual support and constant communication. We don’t see attraction turning to adoration. And yet, are any of those qualities less wonderful than the display of how we understand modern sexuality.
I have an instinct that parenthood presents a remarkable opportunity for a romantic relationship, for a true a partnership, to grow and deepen. Instead, too often, couples withdraw from each other as resources like time, energy and attention grow scarcer as they are shared out among members of a larger family.
Read the whole post here and then vote for Kate in this blogger contest she’s doing.
Me? I’m just too tired to feel hot. Unless you mean can you turn the air conditioner on?
Thanks for the link up Tracee. It means a lot to me.
I don’t have a kid, so I don’t get that part, but I do think what we see on television etc. is a very narrow slice of what real relationships are about.
Kindness, deep emotional intimacy, and the struggle to find balance in a long-term relationship are experiences just as satisfying as hot sex.
I’ve heard those rumor about kindness and deep emotional intimacy actually CAUSING hot sex. . . so far it’s a rumor.
Probably could test the theory if I wasn’t ready for bed at 8:30. Or if I could focus on the task at hand.
I’m hot all the time but it’s from pies coming out of the oven. LOL.
Tech seemed to fix that error! Yeah!!