I brought you into this world and I will totally eff it up if I want to

Given all the recent chatter about the teen pregnancy pact and the lack of discussion about the fathers in this whole mess - I’d like to speak up as a mom to teen boys for just a bit.

Parents of girls need to realize they are raising girls who have complete control over their bodies and over the decision to become pregnant or not.  Contrary to how much stock they put into their amazing parenting skills.

It’s easy to sit back and say that boys should protect themselves and not take chances, but I urge everyone to consider the TWO choices these boys have.  Condoms and abstinence.  We all know the second one is pretty much out the window from about the age of 16 to 17.  As for the other - if you let a girl who has a strong desire to get pregnant, anywhere near a condom, she’s going to poke holes in it!  I know this because I actually have a couple of friends who manipulated their husbands into having another child this very way.

Teen girls seem to be growing less and less capable of making wise decisions.  There are more and more spoilt emotional train wrecks waiting to be called mommy.

Now, I’ve done my part by telling my boys they have three choices should they ever decide to engage in intimate relations prior to marriage.

1.  Condoms that they do not ever let a girl even look at before relations

2.  Go to the doctor WITH the girl and get verification from the doctor or watch her get the shot.

or

3.  Get a girl pregnant, have the child and have me take away EVERY. SINGLE. Weekend. For. The. Rest. Of. Their. Life. At. Home.

I will NOT sign for them to get married at a young age!

I will NOT baby sit for a child that is brought into this world before marriage or responsible adulthood.

I will NOT support a grandchild in any way shape or form.  It’s not my choice to bring it into the world and I won’t be taking care of it!

IF any of my son’s make a dumbass decision to get a girl pregnant and the girl keeps the child - she will be giving up her weeks to care for the child - therefore my son will give up every single weekend so the care of the child is fair and balanced.

Young girls need not look at me and think my kids would make good parents or that I’d make a good grandparent.  I refuse to act like a grandparent until I’m at least 47 - that gives me a good six years and my kids will be 21.

In as much as fathers like to threaten boys with stories of former boyfriends who have been killed and buried in the back forty - I like to let girls know that I’m a mom who believes in birth control, abortion and single parenthood.  I let the girls know in NO uncertain terms that she needn’t get any distorted fantasy of marrying my boys until I say they are good and ready.

I was the single mom of twins for several years - I know what it’s like and have little sympathy for anyone who doesn’t take responsibility for their own actions.  I strongly believe if a girl intentionally gets pregnant and it can be proven - the boy should be released from responsibility or the child placed up for adoption.

God I hope my attitude scares bratty, controlling girls into running away from my boys!