Involved or Committed?

Sometimes, we do have to ask ourselves which one are we. Are we the type who gets involved or one who commits? Every couple should take a step back and check which one you fall under. This will save you a whole lot of trouble later on.

Let me briefly paint a picture hopefully to define each:

Involved

You want to be in the relationship. You want to be a part of the other person’s life and vice versa. You are present in the relationship with all good intentions. You are after the results (short or long term). Your decisions are based on what will get you those results.

Committed

You are all those things an involved partner are. However, you take it a couple of steps more. How? You would never give up on the relationship nor your partner. You will see things through. You will finish what you started. You sacrifice without resentment. You are after the achievement of the goal. Your decisions are based on your core principles.

Knowing who you are in that relationship you’re in will help you see things in a different light. It’s not all about self-love or self-preservation. It’s not about waning passions or exhaustion. It’s about how you define love. It’s about how well-founded your principles are. You find fulfillment in knowing you are willing to take care of the good things that you have in your life.

Perhaps when you find out which one you are you’ll finally realise why all the relationships (and probably the sort of work you produce) you were ever in fell through.

You don’t want to wake up one day and find that you have all the things you have worked hard for and yet you still feel the emptiness. Yea, you are with someone but you know you will give up when you want to.

Better decide which one you are and you’ll feel so much better.