It All Starts With Loving Yourself

I have some advice that you might find cheesy, but I hope you might find it inspirational.  Problems with relationships always relate back to self-confidence.  Everyone must love themselves before they can truly love someone else.

Many years ago in the transitional period between college and “real life” I found myself floundering around a bit and was falling into the common problem of questioning who I was if I was alone away from a boyfriend or close friends and family.  This period of life is definitely extremely challenging and can result in intense feelings of loneliness, low self-confidence, and depression.  It’s common during this time to search online and in books for self-help resources and bits of advice to give yourself direction through this confusing time.  You might find something in your searching that really relates to your situation and helps you to feel stronger when you are down.

I came across a few little colorful cards with statements on them during that time that I posted on my wall because they reminded me of the importance of being strong and independent.  I came across these cards recently and I wanted to share them because even now just reading them reminds me that just saying the words out loud can sometimes have a big effect on how you feel about yourself.  Here are my special cards:

• My positive thoughts create a positive life.
• You can reshape your thinking so that you never have to think in negatives again.  You and only you choose your thoughts.
• My destiny is mine to control.
• When you acquire enough inner peace and feel really positive about yourself, it’s almost impossible for you to be controlled and manipulated by anybody else.
• When you are at peace with yourself and love yourself, it is virtually impossible to be self-destructive.
• I love myself — body, mind, and soul.

These statements are so simple, but so strong!  If you find yourself in a lonely place where you might be struggling with a recent break-up or living in a new city by yourself, try reading these statements and see if they can bring some strength to you as well.