Jon & Kate Plus Divorce

While reading about some of what is going on with the very public Gosselin divorce – Jon is allegedly taking money, Kate is allegedly hiding money – I’m reminded of how quickly things can blow up and out of control when a marriage ends.

My divorce wasn’t of interest to anyone not immediately involved with it. My family was happy. My husband and I were not. His family?  You’d have to ask them for their opinion – I no longer am in contact with any of them. Divorce is the most crazy-making thing I’ve ever survived.

This is my experience with divorce – you love someone and then one day they become a stranger. And not just a harmless stranger you’d pass on the street. No, they become dangerous and combative and then you become a little unhinged yourself and next thing you know you are fighting over stupid things like who gets the camera or the grill.

The Gosselins, their fights are worth a lot more money.

Kate says……..

In an increasingly heated gameof he-said-she-said, Jon Gosselin is blasting back at estranged wife Kate Gosselin and her claims that he violated an arbitrator’s orders by withdrawing $230,000 from a joint bank account from Aug. 10 to Sept. 29.

Jon says………

“I’ve never taken any money out because over 10 years, Kate handled all the banking,” he said. “Over the past four years of doing the show, we accrued $2,250,000. She says in the past week I took $230,000. I have withdrawn roughly $177,000 over the course of a year, which is less than 10 percent of what we made. That’s like my paycheck…She’s hiding money,” he said.

You could buy a lot of cameras and grills with funds like that. Here’s the part I don’t get about divorce – somehow you go from being two people who love and trust each other completely to two people who are enemies airing their dirty laundry to anyone and everyone who will listen. There has to be another way. Is it possible to have a good divorce? 

I’m going to do some research to see what I can find. If you’ve got some advice or some ideas that you’d like me to share, please leave them in the comments.

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