Leaving the Bridge Unburned
I finally took the first step towards leaving my job today.
After thinking carefully for the whole weekend, I felt that no matter what I do and no matter how much I have determined that I would never ever come back to this company again, I should not burn the bridge.. You just never know.
I submitted an informal resignation letter today.
I am considering quitting ABC Company and this job because I can tell that I am physically and mentally tired. And I feel that without a break, my current condition does not allow me to take on the challenge as a senior IT consultant regardless how much I want to perform. As my long term manager, you know all the history in the past …
I truly think that in order to be responsible to myself, I need some time to manage my health and person life so that I can continue the next phase of my career. I also think this is the right thing to do to step down from consulting career right now before I start to under perform or jeopardize the projects.
I have already talked to my project manager and gave him a heads up that he needs to look for replacement so we can still deliver the project on time.
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You can tell that I don’t want to burn the bridge. But I am very clear on making the point that I can’t do this anymore. Since this a public website, I can’t disclose too much information. I can tell you this much: I had a conversation with my manager after this letter was submitted. And he is trying his best to work out a couple of exit options to reduce my financial burden.
Stay tuned…
Good for you! What an amazing statement to yourself – confirming that your health and sanity matters regardless of the paycheck, etc. Also, I’m sure it helps knowing that you made sure your finances were in order first. You had mentioned having enough savings to do this.
I’m getting a huge tax refund this year and was contemplating getting a new car. However, I should really save in case I want to change careers. I love reading about what you are doing. It’s so motivational.
Thanks Kayll…Yes, I set aside an emergency fund for me to last comfortably for 7+ months or frugally for about 10 months. So I know I am covered.
I wrecked my car about 3, 4 months ago and have since been driving company rental. I thought about buying Lexus and Highlander, but after going to the LA auto show, I think a RAV4 will just do fine. So if I start to have income again, I will just stick with a basic fun car.
Hi Jen, Thanks! I guess 1/3 of my bravery comes from the feeling of “being fed up” and 1/3 comes from family/friends support and last 1/3 comes from knowing that I have a contigency plan.. that is, I know I can be out of job for an extend period of time and still be able to survive.
So I thought about the worst case scenario and I know I will be OK. So I made the move… Everytime if we consider the worst case scenario and still be able to come up with plans to deal with it, then make the move…
Good luck to you too!
Christina,
Your bravery will inspire all of those who fantasize about leaving a toxic and non-creative business scenario.
Any ideas about what’s next?
p.s. If you find yourself at home, without a position in the near future, don’t be afraid to stay in your jammies on certain mornings and watch Ellen! (lol).
Haha!! True!.. I am actually about to write another post regarding what’s happening next.. Apparently, my management does not want to let me go and putting offers on the table… I am not backing down from my two criteria: 1) Local job 2) no more than 45 hours a week and absolutely no weekend works
Stay tuned! And I like that jammie idea!
Wow, you go girl!
hey yuna:
Not sure if you celebrate Chinese New year in States, but hey, it starts this sunday! so, wish you a very happy chinese new year and best wishes!
I understand that “The Year of The Dog” is supposed to bring good things…
Thanks guys! My Dad is a dog.. well. Ok, not exactly how I want to describe my Dad, but you know what i mean.. And yes, it did bring good news. Check out my new post.