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]]> By: Kim http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lesson-1-learn-to-say-i-cant-do-it-28/comment-page-1/#comment-2624 Kim Thu, 16 Feb 2006 22:02:42 +0000 http://www.blogfabulous.com/?p=62#comment-2624 I don't think we'd ever treat a guest in our home the way we sometimes treat ourselves...THAT is something to reflect upon. Treat yourself as if you were a guest in your own life! It has taken me many, MANY years to understand the phrase "you must love yourself"...I'm still not good at it...I can barely take a compliment...but I'm trying... I don’t think we’d ever treat a guest in our home the way we sometimes treat ourselves…THAT is something to reflect upon.

Treat yourself as if you were a guest in your own life!

It has taken me many, MANY years to understand the phrase “you must love yourself”…I’m still not good at it…I can barely take a compliment…but I’m trying…

]]> By: Christine(Yuna) http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lesson-1-learn-to-say-i-cant-do-it-28/comment-page-1/#comment-2623 Christine(Yuna) Wed, 15 Feb 2006 01:11:03 +0000 http://www.blogfabulous.com/?p=62#comment-2623 It takes a looooong time, a broken marriage and a illed body for me to realize that life is more than just work and what I do doesn't define who I am. Yes, I still bust my ass trying to please others... It's tough. We all know the thoeries but it is hard to apply what we know when the real situation arises. I agree with Kim and Kayll that we really don't pay too much attention to ourselves cuz we feel guilty for being a "selfish self-centered bitch" if we put ourselves first... Someone once told me that if I am not happy and healthy, I can't care for the others. "Take care of yourself first, then you can take care of others." He said... I guess I will just have to read my own posts and your comments over and over again until the words sink in..:-D It takes a looooong time, a broken marriage and a illed body for me to realize that life is more than just work and what I do doesn’t define who I am. Yes, I still bust my ass trying to please others… It’s tough. We all know the thoeries but it is hard to apply what we know when the real situation arises. I agree with Kim and Kayll that we really don’t pay too much attention to ourselves cuz we feel guilty for being a “selfish self-centered bitch” if we put ourselves first…

Someone once told me that if I am not happy and healthy, I can’t care for the others. “Take care of yourself first, then you can take care of others.” He said…

I guess I will just have to read my own posts and your comments over and over again until the words sink in..:-D

]]> By: Kayll http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lesson-1-learn-to-say-i-cant-do-it-28/comment-page-1/#comment-2622 Kayll Wed, 15 Feb 2006 00:55:33 +0000 http://www.blogfabulous.com/?p=62#comment-2622 That is such a tough one. We are all so wrapped up in what we do that it's almost impossible to say "I can't do that". When you meet people for the first time, they ask "so, what do you do?" Not what are your dreams? What makes you tick? I should have done a "can't do that" myself today when someone asking about getting a logo designed for his company. While I offered suggetions of where to go for info, I also offered my services. My internal alarms were rining and blaring and honking "You don't have time! You haven't designed anything in months! Abort. ABORT." I agree with Kim. We as women give so much that we don't give much attention to ourselves. Then when work suffers, we feel bad about it. It's no wonder our identities are wrapped up in our jobs. When anyone works as much as you do, Christine, what time is left for anything else? That is such a tough one. We are all so wrapped up in what we do that it’s almost impossible to say “I can’t do that”. When you meet people for the first time, they ask “so, what do you do?” Not what are your dreams? What makes you tick?

I should have done a “can’t do that” myself today when someone asking about getting a logo designed for his company. While I offered suggetions of where to go for info, I also offered my services.

My internal alarms were rining and blaring and honking “You don’t have time! You haven’t designed anything in months! Abort. ABORT.”

I agree with Kim. We as women give so much that we don’t give much attention to ourselves. Then when work suffers, we feel bad about it.

It’s no wonder our identities are wrapped up in our jobs. When anyone works as much as you do, Christine, what time is left for anything else?

]]> By: Kim http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lesson-1-learn-to-say-i-cant-do-it-28/comment-page-1/#comment-2621 Kim Tue, 14 Feb 2006 21:45:35 +0000 http://www.blogfabulous.com/?p=62#comment-2621 I think that women have a much more difficult time with recognizing when to say No, because of our innate characteristics to please. I think you touched on that aspect once before...we as women must learn that it is ok not to be able to please everyone. I too have people who work for me...and they are women...they often have a hard time telling me their being pushed too hard...and you know what...when that happens, and it isn't often on my part, the work suffers. I think that women have a much more difficult time with recognizing when to say No, because of our innate characteristics to please.

I think you touched on that aspect once before…we as women must learn that it is ok not to be able to please everyone.

I too have people who work for me…and they are women…they often have a hard time telling me their being pushed too hard…and you know what…when that happens, and it isn’t often on my part, the work suffers.

]]> By: Milo Riano http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lesson-1-learn-to-say-i-cant-do-it-28/comment-page-1/#comment-2620 Milo Riano Tue, 14 Feb 2006 21:44:39 +0000 http://www.blogfabulous.com/?p=62#comment-2620 Pushing people so much would not benefit your company on a long-term basis. "Dimishing Returns" is bound to happen. Learning to say no is necessary if you want to have peak productivity results most of the time and is a sign of a well planned project. If something goes wrong which is most likely to happen you would want to have enough energy left for a finish line attack without any diminishing return towards the end. Pushing people so much would not benefit your company on a long-term basis. “Dimishing Returns” is bound to happen. Learning to say no is necessary if you want to have peak productivity results most of the time and is a sign of a well planned project. If something goes wrong which is most likely to happen you would want to have enough energy left for a finish line attack without any diminishing return towards the end.

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