Comments on: Let’s Not Blame the Victim: A Call for Restraint and Responsibility http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 15 Dec 2009 09:25:11 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Autism Vox » Love and Hope, Not Hopelessness: Remembering Katherine McCarron http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-528517 Autism Vox » Love and Hope, Not Hopelessness: Remembering Katherine McCarron Fri, 29 Sep 2006 16:08:28 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-528517 [...] I have posted often about Katherine McCarron—a beautiful, precious, and happy little girl. Katie died on May 13th; her mother, Karen McCarron, allegedly killed her. I have noted how much of the media coverage surrounding Katie’s killing focused on the “toll” of raising an autistic child and about how difficult, and devastating, it is to be the parent of an autistic child. (See this earlier post, Let’s Not Blame the Victim: A Call for Restraint and Responsibility.) Raising an autistic child can, it was suggested, lead a parent to conclude that one’s child would be better off dead than alive and autistic. (See this earlier post, Karen McCarron, Alison Tepper Singer, and misplaced compassion.) [...] [...] I have posted often about Katherine McCarron—a beautiful, precious, and happy little girl. Katie died on May 13th; her mother, Karen McCarron, allegedly killed her. I have noted how much of the media coverage surrounding Katie’s killing focused on the “toll” of raising an autistic child and about how difficult, and devastating, it is to be the parent of an autistic child. (See this earlier post, Let’s Not Blame the Victim: A Call for Restraint and Responsibility.) Raising an autistic child can, it was suggested, lead a parent to conclude that one’s child would be better off dead than alive and autistic. (See this earlier post, Karen McCarron, Alison Tepper Singer, and misplaced compassion.) [...]

]]> By: Autism Vox » Disabledocide http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527485 Autism Vox » Disabledocide Wed, 28 Jun 2006 20:17:22 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527485 [...] Recent reports have revealed that Kellie A. Waremburg, mother of four-year-old Lexus Walker who has cerebral palsy, gave her daughter a “drug cocktail including phenobarbital and 100 crushed sleeping pills to get her “to go to sleep and not wake up,” and threatened to kill herself with a knife,” according to today’s Peoria Journal Star. Lexus Fuller had to be fed through a tube, is blind and mentally retarded, and uses a wheelchair, and “was in serious condition Thursday at OSF Saint Francis Medical Center in Peoria; prosecutor Kirk Schoenbein said the toddler had “‘taken a turn for the best overnight.’” [...] [...] Recent reports have revealed that Kellie A. Waremburg, mother of four-year-old Lexus Walker who has cerebral palsy, gave her daughter a “drug cocktail including phenobarbital and 100 crushed sleeping pills to get her “to go to sleep and not wake up,” and threatened to kill herself with a knife,” according to today’s Peoria Journal Star. Lexus Fuller had to be fed through a tube, is blind and mentally retarded, and uses a wheelchair, and “was in serious condition Thursday at OSF Saint Francis Medical Center in Peoria; prosecutor Kirk Schoenbein said the toddler had “‘taken a turn for the best overnight.’” [...]

]]> By: Kassiane http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527435 Kassiane Mon, 26 Jun 2006 00:38:28 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527435 Oh yes. We complain. We can also whine, b*tch, moan, and be 'noncompliant'. And I for one am PROUD to be 'noncompliant'. In Peoria the PJS was called the Urinal Star. Can't imagine why... Oh yes. We complain.

We can also whine, b*tch, moan, and be ‘noncompliant’. And I for one am PROUD to be ‘noncompliant’.

In Peoria the PJS was called the Urinal Star. Can’t imagine why…

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527413 Kristina Chew, PhD Sat, 24 Jun 2006 15:09:09 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527413 Kassiane, I'm posting on the latest from the PJStar.com---note how only the disability advocates are said to "complain." Kassiane, I’m posting on the latest from the PJStar.com—note how only the disability advocates are said to “complain.”

]]> By: Mike McCarron http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527411 Mike McCarron Sat, 24 Jun 2006 13:33:41 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527411 Kassiane, that is also the hospital that Katie was born in. Kassiane, that is also the hospital that Katie was born in.

]]> By: Kassiane http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527409 Kassiane Sat, 24 Jun 2006 07:25:20 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527409 Balanced my heiney. They'll get Patty Floyd or Lauri "we resent our middle child so much we sent him away" Hislope or Susan Grimm or one of those folks to say "but its sttiiiiill so harrrrrd. We need SERVICES and then these things wouldn't HAPPEN". To which I say the oh so mature "EFFING WAAAAH". My parents (and I come from a VERY dysfunctional family, abusive etc) managed to not kill me, and not only am I autistic, but I had a tentative Rett dx for awhile (turns out that genetically they were right) but I also had childhood onset bipolar, seizures, and ADHHHHHHHHHHHHHHD. Yet, here I am still alive, 20 years after (ignored) diagnosis. If I need to call them, I'll do it. My roommate swears I'm a fire elf-they don't want to be on the other end of the phone if I'm not happy with them. Baaaaad temper here. And Mr. McCarron, thank you for the report. Lexus is in the hospital I was born in, I heard...good hospital. They make appropriate referrals too, always important for after care. Thanks for keeping us up to date. And I owe you an email re: the ribbons...I get the honor and priviledge of going to the store and deciding WHICH pink ribbon to get...I'd rather it was an unnecessary honor. Balanced my heiney.

They’ll get Patty Floyd or Lauri “we resent our middle child so much we sent him away” Hislope or Susan Grimm or one of those folks to say “but its sttiiiiill so harrrrrd. We need SERVICES and then these things wouldn’t HAPPEN”.

To which I say the oh so mature “EFFING WAAAAH”. My parents (and I come from a VERY dysfunctional family, abusive etc) managed to not kill me, and not only am I autistic, but I had a tentative Rett dx for awhile (turns out that genetically they were right) but I also had childhood onset bipolar, seizures, and ADHHHHHHHHHHHHHHD. Yet, here I am still alive, 20 years after (ignored) diagnosis.

If I need to call them, I’ll do it. My roommate swears I’m a fire elf-they don’t want to be on the other end of the phone if I’m not happy with them. Baaaaad temper here.

And Mr. McCarron, thank you for the report. Lexus is in the hospital I was born in, I heard…good hospital. They make appropriate referrals too, always important for after care. Thanks for keeping us up to date. And I owe you an email re: the ribbons…I get the honor and priviledge of going to the store and deciding WHICH pink ribbon to get…I’d rather it was an unnecessary honor.

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527407 Kristina Chew, PhD Sat, 24 Jun 2006 02:16:08 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527407 So balanced means imbalanced----thanks for the update, Mike. More than a few thoughts and prayers here. So balanced means imbalanced—-thanks for the update, Mike. More than a few thoughts and prayers here.

]]> By: Mike McCarron http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527406 Mike McCarron Fri, 23 Jun 2006 23:33:13 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527406 Lexus Fuller's condition has been upgraded to "fair", it sounds like she will live. That is wonderful news, nothing else has been said about her so far. Lexus Fuller’s condition has been upgraded to “fair”, it sounds like she will live. That is wonderful news, nothing else has been said about her so far.

]]> By: Stephen Drake http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527404 Stephen Drake Fri, 23 Jun 2006 18:52:17 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527404 Mike, Kristina and all, thank you. Sad to say, I've had a lot of practice at this. I've been doing the work I do for close to ten years now. I don't remember it ever being quite so hard emotionally. The criticisms of the coverage, the ANSWERS group, and the Autism Society of IL may be going very public. When I sent out the press release, I emailed copies to editors, reporters, and columnists at the Chicago Trib and the newspapers in Springfield and Peoria. I faxed copies on letterhead to their newsrooms as well. Today, I received a call from the lead reporter from the Peoria paper. She didn't appear to be real enthused or sympathetic to what I wrote, but the new and ugly reality makes it hard to ignore. So it looks like she's going to do a story. Based on my years of experience with the media, I don't have high expectations for the article. She's made it clear it will be "balanced" and to me that means it will probably slant the way of previous coverage. That's what usually happens, but there has been a surprise or two in the past (due to my pessimistic nature, all "surprises" are of the pleasant variety). But at the very least, the criticisms will be public and placed in this new context of a very disturbing and tragic attack on a little girl. Mike, Kristina and all,

thank you.

Sad to say, I’ve had a lot of practice at this. I’ve been doing the work I do for close to ten years now. I don’t remember it ever being quite so hard emotionally.

The criticisms of the coverage, the ANSWERS group, and the Autism Society of IL may be going very public. When I sent out the press release, I emailed copies to editors, reporters, and columnists at the Chicago Trib and the newspapers in Springfield and Peoria. I faxed copies on letterhead to their newsrooms as well.

Today, I received a call from the lead reporter from the Peoria paper. She didn’t appear to be real enthused or sympathetic to what I wrote, but the new and ugly reality makes it hard to ignore. So it looks like she’s going to do a story.

Based on my years of experience with the media, I don’t have high expectations for the article. She’s made it clear it will be “balanced” and to me that means it will probably slant the way of previous coverage. That’s what usually happens, but there has been a surprise or two in the past (due to my pessimistic nature, all “surprises” are of the pleasant variety).

But at the very least, the criticisms will be public and placed in this new context of a very disturbing and tragic attack on a little girl.

]]> By: Janna’s Thoughts… » Blog Archive » Complaints and Responsibility. http://www.blisstree.com/articles/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/comment-page-1/#comment-527401 Janna’s Thoughts… » Blog Archive » Complaints and Responsibility. Fri, 23 Jun 2006 16:21:00 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/lets-not-blame-the-victim-a-call-for-restraint-and-responsibility/#comment-527401 [...] Well, there’ve been a couple of recent Autism Hub posts about people not taking responsibility for their own actions. (See Autism Vox and Ballastexistenz.) [...] [...] Well, there’ve been a couple of recent Autism Hub posts about people not taking responsibility for their own actions. (See Autism Vox and Ballastexistenz.) [...]

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