Comments on: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

By: Is Hollywood to Blame for the Pregnancy Pact?

Is Hollywood to Blame for the Pregnancy Pact? — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 05:48:05 +0000

[...] discussed talking to your kids about sex before, but I can’t stress it enough. It needs to be a continuous conversation. When you [...]

By: Keeping Busy When You’re Stuck Indoors

Keeping Busy When You’re Stuck Indoors — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 05:12:08 +0000

[...] the snow day as an opportunity to have the sex talk with the [...]

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 05:22:24 +0000

Francie, the schools have to do it early. My DD dropped a friend in 5th grade who was having oral sex. (My DD was in 4th at the time and is now in 5th.) We live in a really normal middle class area. According to my neighbor’s 13 yo DD, there are 5 girls who are pregnant in our jr. high and 2 of them are in 7th grade, 2 in 8th, and 1 might have dropped out of 8th grade. My neighbor’s DS is in 6th at the secondary school, and he says that there are “nasty” girls who do stuff with “anyone”. I wish the schools could wait, but they really can’t. And lots of these girls think that oral sex isn’t sex, or that this way they can’t catch anything. There are a lot worse things that can happen to your kids than pregnancy, and I think that really needs to be stressed. If we don’t protect our kids by arming them with info, who will? Some schools still don’t teach sex ed.

By: Sex kills | The Bean Blog

Sex kills | The Bean Blog — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 19:09:45 +0000

[...] few days ago I wrote a post over at Weary Parent about talking to you kids about sex. I was referring to talking to my teens about sex, but somehow a conversation last night with [...]

By: bill

bill — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 03:39:58 +0000

I agree, Francie. You find yourself wondering if this is good because it prevents, or bad because it suggests. A friend told me that she arranged for her teen daughters to get IUDs, and I thought at the time ‘why not just tell them go out and have sex”. Now MY daughters a teen, and though we didn’t go that route, it doesn’t sound so bad to me. Bottom line is, I think, the kid needs to know, and needs to hear from us, too.

By: Francie

Francie — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 23:46:31 +0000

I was shocked when our school district did the health and living class for our 10 year old but it wasn’t at ALL like I remembered mine in 5th grade. Where we learned about puberty, they learned about condoms and other forms of birth control. Where we learned about menstruation, they (boys AND girls together!) learned about “wet dreams” (the term the school used) and masturbation. They also talked about AIDS, homosexuality and STD’s. At age 10!! Now I realize my child is behind the norm in maturity (she still claims to believe in Santa) but I think this is a bit overboard for that age. Why can’t schools teach this in stages. Puberty in 5th, sexuality in 6th or 7th, birth control in 8th or 9th. Seriously. It frightens me that kids age 10 need to know about condoms.

By: FeelGoodGirl

FeelGoodGirl — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 18:26:46 +0000

A great post, and right on point! I too like to think of myself as a young, hip Mama, but along with hipness comes the realization that the world today is much MUCH different than it was when I was my daughters age.

Thank goodness for resources (like this blog) that offer a little help for the tricky tween and teen years. I will be definitely be ordering this book.

Thanks!

By: joe bruzzese

joe bruzzese — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 14:42:39 +0000

I read a post earlier this morning from a middle school mom concerned about sex and her daughter. Your post was timely. Thanks for talking about the tough stuff. Enjoy the weekend ahead.

Regards,
Joe Bruzzese

By: laura

laura — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 05:52:30 +0000

personally i believe if a parent hasn’t been talking about sex and sexuality since their little preschooler noticed the difference between boys and girls then they are too late. if we want our kids to make the right choices about sex and their sexuality then we need to start early, be simple and truthful and just do it.

By: Jeri

Jeri — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 03:43:11 +0000

Christine-
I have been “waiting” for the right time to talk to my 6th grade daughter for six months. Your message (and her upcoming health class) have convinced me to just do it. I will, however, wait until her 3rd grade brother is not around