Comments on: Letting Teens Set Their Own Bedtime http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 22 Dec 2009 23:08:44 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lorri http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-299158 Lorri Wed, 03 Jun 2009 06:12:41 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-299158 My 14 yo son has always gone to bed easily and risen early. Until recently. We set summer bedtime at 11pm, with wake-up at 9 am. He thinks this very unreasonable, saying none of his friends have set hours. He is now pushing these times, not shutting out lights till 12am, sleeping till 10am if allowed. I have just begun reading online about this. I am inclined to keep our set hours. If we become lax now, this will set the stage for 4 miserable years till he's independent. I am still gathering information, but I think we need to do the difficult thing now. My 14 yo son has always gone to bed easily and risen early. Until recently. We set summer bedtime at 11pm, with wake-up at 9 am. He thinks this very unreasonable, saying none of his friends have set hours. He is now pushing these times, not shutting out lights till 12am, sleeping till 10am if allowed. I have just begun reading online about this. I am inclined to keep our set hours. If we become lax now, this will set the stage for 4 miserable years till he’s independent. I am still gathering information, but I think we need to do the difficult thing now.

]]> By: SK http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-79900 SK Mon, 26 Jan 2009 17:05:40 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-79900 I agree with Sheri. My 17 and 15 year old kids just don't want to go to bed before 11:00. I refuse now to stay up and enforce rules. It means that an argument starts and I am the one ending up going to bed too late too! So, in order to keep my sanity, I suggest they go to bed when I am turning in. If they go, great. If not, I go and now chose not to think about them being up. Sometimes, its a lost cause, and you hope that they will figure it out one day when they are falling asleep in class or at home after school. It's not worth the stress, the arguments and the worry. I agree with Sheri. My 17 and 15 year old kids just don’t want to go to bed before 11:00. I refuse now to stay up and enforce rules. It means that an argument starts and I am the one ending up going to bed too late too! So, in order to keep my sanity, I suggest they go to bed when I am turning in. If they go, great. If not, I go and now chose not to think about them being up. Sometimes, its a lost cause, and you hope that they will figure it out one day when they are falling asleep in class or at home after school. It’s not worth the stress, the arguments and the worry.

]]> By: scarlett http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-79951 scarlett Tue, 20 Jan 2009 19:52:55 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-79951 this was not helpful at all! very lame this was not helpful at all! very lame

]]> By: Sheri http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-81076 Sheri Mon, 19 Jan 2009 05:27:33 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-81076 My problem is that when I let my teens stay up to watch a movie or something else and I say goodnight, they don't go. They sit there and talk or wander around the kitchen like I haven't just told them to go to bed. I end up getting upset and I don't want bedtime to be like that. But, it's pretty much a given that if I say goodnight at 11 p.m. that it will be 12 before they go. Any suggestions? My problem is that when I let my teens stay up to watch a movie or something else and I say goodnight, they don’t go. They sit there and talk or wander around the kitchen like I haven’t just told them to go to bed. I end up getting upset and I don’t want bedtime to be like that. But, it’s pretty much a given that if I say goodnight at 11 p.m. that it will be 12 before they go. Any suggestions?

]]> By: Teen Coach/Gen Y Guide “best of the web” this week : Teen Coach - Gen Y Guide - Sarah Newton http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-79880 Teen Coach/Gen Y Guide “best of the web” this week : Teen Coach - Gen Y Guide - Sarah Newton Sat, 10 Jan 2009 11:08:40 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-79880 [...] Letting Teens Set Their Own Bedtime [...] [...] Letting Teens Set Their Own Bedtime [...]

]]> By: janie http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-79866 janie Fri, 09 Jan 2009 00:36:22 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-79866 my 13 year old and 10 year old have the same bed time of 9pm. they can read if they want, but they are supposed to be in bed at that time with the tv off. most of the time, the 13 yr old is asleep by 9:05 if he hasn't already gone to bed on his own. the 10 year old is a night owl and would stay up all night if i let her. but since she usually reads, she ends up reading herself to sleep. the boy gets up at 5:30 every morning so by the time 9pm rolls around, he's beat. if he wasn't falling asleep at 9pm anyway, we'd probably bump his bedtime till 10, but right now it's a mute point. when they want to and can manage to stay up later, we'll adjust bedtimes accordingly. bed time is later in the summer when they don't have to get up for school. they have to be in bed before me or when i go to bed and i usually go to bed at 11pm. my 13 year old and 10 year old have the same bed time of 9pm. they can read if they want, but they are supposed to be in bed at that time with the tv off. most of the time, the 13 yr old is asleep by 9:05 if he hasn’t already gone to bed on his own. the 10 year old is a night owl and would stay up all night if i let her. but since she usually reads, she ends up reading herself to sleep. the boy gets up at 5:30 every morning so by the time 9pm rolls around, he’s beat. if he wasn’t falling asleep at 9pm anyway, we’d probably bump his bedtime till 10, but right now it’s a mute point. when they want to and can manage to stay up later, we’ll adjust bedtimes accordingly. bed time is later in the summer when they don’t have to get up for school. they have to be in bed before me or when i go to bed and i usually go to bed at 11pm.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-80069 Sarah Thu, 08 Jan 2009 02:56:44 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-80069 I meant to say "all the way until, like, 17. (I..." I meant to say “all the way until, like, 17. (I…”

]]> By: Sarah http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-80068 Sarah Thu, 08 Jan 2009 02:53:45 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-80068 Hi, I'm 21 so I thought I'd put in my recently-teen two cents. When I was 11 I was going at 10pm. At 13 or so, it was 11pm all the way until like, 11pm. (I was waking up at about 7am.) When I was 17, it was a free-for-all and it would be 1am, 2am, 3am, whenever. Ever since then, my average bedtime has been 1 or 2am. I have gotten good grades my entire life, been a part of sports, and got through high school virtually unscathed. ;) Hi, I’m 21 so I thought I’d put in my recently-teen two cents.

When I was 11 I was going at 10pm. At 13 or so, it was 11pm all the way until like, 11pm. (I was waking up at about 7am.) When I was 17, it was a free-for-all and it would be 1am, 2am, 3am, whenever. Ever since then, my average bedtime has been 1 or 2am. I have gotten good grades my entire life, been a part of sports, and got through high school virtually unscathed. ;)

]]> By: Kelly http://www.blisstree.com/articles/letting-teens-sleep-119/comment-page-1/#comment-79002 Kelly Wed, 07 Jan 2009 18:16:56 +0000 http://www.wearyparent.com/?p=1683#comment-79002 My almost teen (3 more months) goes to bed at 10 and gets up at 6:15. Some people think that's late for a 12 year old, but I tell them that when she stars showing that she's not getting enough sleep I'll change it. She's not overly moody, she gets good grades, etc. I honestly don't think she's going right to sleep like she's supposed to because I've caught her on her laptop or texting a few times, but the way I see it, she has to suffer her own consequences, ie being tired the next day, and I think it's like you said... she's just not tired yet. My almost teen (3 more months) goes to bed at 10 and gets up at 6:15. Some people think that’s late for a 12 year old, but I tell them that when she stars showing that she’s not getting enough sleep I’ll change it. She’s not overly moody, she gets good grades, etc. I honestly don’t think she’s going right to sleep like she’s supposed to because I’ve caught her on her laptop or texting a few times, but the way I see it, she has to suffer her own consequences, ie being tired the next day, and I think it’s like you said… she’s just not tired yet.

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