Comments on: Limitations – Deciding When To Accept Them and When To Move On http://www.blisstree.com/articles/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on-45/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Fri, 04 Dec 2009 21:12:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38634 Michelle Smith Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:52:35 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on/#comment-38634 The heart as a home, that makes so much sense, Heather. I guess I hold on because I really hate "moving." I think that right now, I'm not ready to move, but I will be doing some rearranging. Leah, thanks for the keep on, keeping on. :D I think that rather than having someone make the decisions, he waits until the last minute and then closes his eyes and jumps, but he jumps back into the same thing that did not work before. He returns to the same thing, but he's even farther behind. I wish he'd have some faith in himself and really go for the chef school. The heart as a home, that makes so much sense, Heather. I guess I hold on because I really hate “moving.” I think that right now, I’m not ready to move, but I will be doing some rearranging.

Leah, thanks for the keep on, keeping on. :D I think that rather than having someone make the decisions, he waits until the last minute and then closes his eyes and jumps, but he jumps back into the same thing that did not work before. He returns to the same thing, but he’s even farther behind. I wish he’d have some faith in himself and really go for the chef school.

]]> By: Heather http://www.blisstree.com/articles/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38674 Heather Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:21:14 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on/#comment-38674 I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going so well in the relationship, Michelle. But I think it's fantastic that you are doing what you need to for yourself and for your children. Such a great observation you make, that we women think we can never be loved any better by someone else. Even when we know we aren't being loved all that well. Why do we do that? It's so frustrating. I once heard someone say that, as women, our hearts are always looking for a home. And I think once we think maybe our heart has found a home, it seems like so much work to start looking for a new home all over again. I’m sorry to hear that things aren’t going so well in the relationship, Michelle. But I think it’s fantastic that you are doing what you need to for yourself and for your children.

Such a great observation you make, that we women think we can never be loved any better by someone else. Even when we know we aren’t being loved all that well. Why do we do that? It’s so frustrating. I once heard someone say that, as women, our hearts are always looking for a home. And I think once we think maybe our heart has found a home, it seems like so much work to start looking for a new home all over again.

]]> By: Leah http://www.blisstree.com/articles/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38533 Leah Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:12:48 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on/#comment-38533 I'm so glad that you were able to sit down and discuss this stuff. He seems like the kind of person that once he's maxed out stress-wise that's it...other people need to make decisions for him and he's okay with that - because he's off the hook. And, no, he's not the only guy that can love you, your family, your chubby thighs and smooshy tummy! You've got a great attitude...keep on keepin' on, sister! *HUGS* I’m so glad that you were able to sit down and discuss this stuff. He seems like the kind of person that once he’s maxed out stress-wise that’s it…other people need to make decisions for him and he’s okay with that – because he’s off the hook.
And, no, he’s not the only guy that can love you, your family, your chubby thighs and smooshy tummy!
You’ve got a great attitude…keep on keepin’ on, sister!
*HUGS*

]]> By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38532 Michelle Smith Tue, 11 Nov 2008 18:25:02 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on/#comment-38532 Thanks Lara. I think I just have to put this part of my life up on the shelf for a bit. I think it would do us both some good - I don't think worrying about hurting me is helping him to get it together any faster. Thanks Lara. I think I just have to put this part of my life up on the shelf for a bit. I think it would do us both some good – I don’t think worrying about hurting me is helping him to get it together any faster.

]]> By: Lara http://www.blisstree.com/articles/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38784 Lara Tue, 11 Nov 2008 17:45:32 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/limitations-deciding-when-to-accept-them-and-when-to-move-on/#comment-38784 Oh Michelle... I'm proud of you for letting yourself come to some of these realizations, and I'm sad for you because I know it's a disappointment. I have a friend whom I love dearly, but I know I can't count on him to really be there for me. He's kind of like a butterfly, floating in and out and around my head. He nearly got into that deep, dark spot of my heart, but I had to keep him out. You deserve to feel that blissful "love" feeling all the time, not just for a while or while it's convenient for the one you love. If he's got "shit to do" then let him do it, and you do yours, which just might include finding someone else to fulfill your emotional needs and desires. You deserve someone who includes you in his priorities, who sees you in his future (even if it's only tomorrow) and who refuses to let his "shit" get in the way. We all have stuff to deal with in our lives, but letting down the people who love us should never be one of them. Keep strong, Michelle... you're doing what you need to do for yourself and your family, and not even God could ask for more than that. Oh Michelle…

I’m proud of you for letting yourself come to some of these realizations, and I’m sad for you because I know it’s a disappointment.

I have a friend whom I love dearly, but I know I can’t count on him to really be there for me. He’s kind of like a butterfly, floating in and out and around my head. He nearly got into that deep, dark spot of my heart, but I had to keep him out.

You deserve to feel that blissful “love” feeling all the time, not just for a while or while it’s convenient for the one you love. If he’s got “shit to do” then let him do it, and you do yours, which just might include finding someone else to fulfill your emotional needs and desires.

You deserve someone who includes you in his priorities, who sees you in his future (even if it’s only tomorrow) and who refuses to let his “shit” get in the way. We all have stuff to deal with in our lives, but letting down the people who love us should never be one of them.

Keep strong, Michelle… you’re doing what you need to do for yourself and your family, and not even God could ask for more than that.

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