Long Distance Dating Tips
November 7, 2008 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
Today, Kelly Sonora sent me the link to a helpful article for people involved in a long distance relationship. 50 Ways to Make Long Distance Dating Easier, by Christina Laun features some great advice.
Some examples:
*Have an end goal. Someone is going to have to relocate in order for the relationship to flourish. This is a problem in my relationship right now. The end goal is pretty fuzzy currently.
*Share the traveling time and expenses. My boyfriend and I have taken turns with the traveling, but for a large part of the time he’s had to do the bulk of the traveling. In return, I pay for food and I’ve helped with gas.
*Don’t take the other person for granted. This is important and harder than it sounds. Sometimes I don’t hear from Steve and I get frustrated with his silence. It’s important to remember he has his own busy life and that he works long hours. In addition, I would appreciate if he would work on maintaining some sort of connection with me. I don’t need a lot of time. One “I love you” text goes a long way.
*Realize that miscommunication happens easily. When you are not face to face with your partner, it’s easy for something silly to turn into something heated. I’ve found that it helps to keep the sarcasm to a minimum.
*Avoid assumptions. This fits in with the miscommunication. Keep an open mind and try to remember that you are a team. A long distance team, but still a team.
*Patience is key. Accept that it’s going to take some time for things to get where you want them to be. A long distance relationship cannot exist without love, commitment, and patience. It is hard and exhausting, but a daily mantra of “just be patient” can go a long way.
*Keep busy. Don’t sit around waiting for your partner to call. That will only lead to resentment. Maintain a full and active lifestyle. That lifestyle is what gives you your spark and your spark is what drew your partner to you in the first place.
The article is full of great ideas – ideas that are helpful for local daters, as well. Be sure you check it out. Thanks for sending me the link, Kelly!
