Maintaining Friends from the Opposite Sex
December 21, 2007 by Sasha Manuel
Filed under Relationships
It’s a common dilemma for couples when they find themselves faced in a situation wherein friction is developed in their respective relationships by friends from the opposite sex.
It’s not really forbidden to have one or many esp if you are comfortable in keeping such friendships or you’re generally a friendly person. Personally, I don’t mind. Really, I don’t. But I’ve got to admit that I’ve had my share of troubles.
My only real concern is where individuals draw the line. Respecting the *absent* partner in cases wherein it’s only one of the partners you’re friends with. Some people tend to forget their place, sometimes. And the problem with the people in relationships who maintain such friends is that they forget that there are certain “no-no’s”.
Whoever said that being in a relationship is restrictive? It’s all a matter of finding a common ground. Everything can be discussed and reach an agreement on, me thinks.
I, personally, believe that my boyfriend can and should keep his friends from the opposite sex. Esp the ones who’ve been in his life before he and I met. Making new ones are alright, too. All I ask is that I’m valued more, know what I mean?
What about you guys? What are your thoughts on the matter?
I have not yet had a girlfriend. I have, however, had many great female friends. Some are in relationships. Some are not. There are two problems I run into:
The first problem is when a girl is in a relationship and the guy is possessive or jealous or something. I had befriended someone on Facebook and the boyfriend evidently had access to the account and unfriended me and other male friends. I believe a good relationship has more trust than that.
The second problem is when the girl is in a relationship and I believe she may be having feelings for me. At that point, I bring it up and say I am not her friend to break up an existing relationship. So far, this problem has just been an illusion from what I can tell due to my weaknesses in reading body language and flirting.
All in all, I am for having friends of the opposite sex. For me, these friends are some of the most positive people in my life and I try to be a positive friend in theirs.