Man-eater, Man-hater

Two titles bestowed on women. Some claimed, some labeled. Of course, these titles don’t apply to women in general; they’ve simply become widely used by both men and women in reference to the women of their acquaintance and/or themselves, respectively. You can’t help but ask questions: What makes one a man-eater? What makes the other a man-hater? Is there a need to label these women who fits the description as such?

For clarity, perhaps. To gain better understanding of the women who fall under these classification. It’s better that you, ladies, know if you indeed are man-eaters or man-haters, right?

Let’s meet the Man-eater
This lady goes through men as quickly as changing outfits. I reckon she can easily attract a guy, get what she wants then discards, without any thought on the guy’s feelings. She’s not necessarily called a slut or seen as someone who’s easy. She’s just the one who calls the shots most of the time and, yes, men still would flock to her. Her personality is so confident and so strong that no man can actually faze her. You can say that she’s the heartbreaker.

And, now, let’s get acquainted with the Man-hater
These are the women who hates men. Period. I reckon the title pretty much says it all, don’t you agree?

Can a woman be both?
Tricky but I think not. Simply because my definition of a man-hater is pretty rigid. In my personal opinion, one cancels out the other, not because they’re at extremes, it’s just that their definitions don’t really sync. It’s quite hypocritical to say that you’re a man-hater when you keep on getting crushes and would still go out and flirt with men with the intention of finding a partner, right? How can you stand being around men if you hate them, much less pine for someone or wish to meet Mr. Right? And then, you can’t really call someone a man-eater if there are no men in the picture, right? A man-eater needs men to exist. Heh.

Motivations
Both may share the same motivation: these women hate men. Which probably why some would mistake one for the other. However, a man-eater can also be driven by her greed, or her idea of self-preservation, or just by her self-centered nature and not because she hates men. Also, I reckon the same can be said about a man-hater. Ah, well. Motivations can be relative.

Final thoughts
I find them both as unhealthy titles to keep. Women (and men) should learn how to celebrate the differences of the two genders and learn how to relate and accept. I do understand that there are some encounters with the male species that will cause you to grab one title for yourself but I reckon it really won’t solve the real problem esp if you’re simply doing a “bubble gum” fix. Anyway, just keep in mind that both men and women are simply trying to find the best way to go about dating and relationships. All are bound to make mistakes along the way.

Discuss
Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong in my definitions, I’ve only developed these based on personal insights and observations. I invite you chime in. I want to hear your thoughts on the matter. Perhaps as we further discuss the matter, we can better understand it.