Manners and Pretty Boys

Scarlet, my actively online-dating friend, had another dating adventure this week. While visiting  “back home,” an older brother of a guy we grew up with made a tentative dinner date with her. They had previously chatted (briefly) on Singlesnet.com, but only in a friendly way, not flirty. She was not impressed with his inability to commit to a time or place.

Scarlet asked around and heard that he was “a pretty boy,” “too old,” and had “man boobs,” so when her mom hurt her wrist, she was presented with the perfect excuse to cancel the date. “Canceling” meant she just didn’t call him back.

He called her the next day with a “Thanks a lot, you missed a wonderful time at the lake,” which was funny because he never invited her to the lake in the first place. He must have been confusing her with a different date.

She swore off online dating again, as in “Michelle I am so done with that,” and then some guy from her list of Facebook friends asked her out. What is this woman’s secret?  Every time she turns around, she gets asked out. And I mean that literally, as one of the men who asked her out did so after driving by her in a parking lot – she was chatting with coworkers and he liked her ass.

Here’s what she has to say about the cancelation, “I did not want to be a hook up. Man boobs aside, a man should make a date-date, not a ‘call me and we’ll hook up,’ offer. If a man wants to date you, he puts more effort into it than that. ”

That makes a lot of sense to me. Good manners go a long way toward making the right impression.

Image credit: Michelle Smith