Married Couple Friends
September 19, 2007 by Kerri Aldrich
Filed under Relationships
Do you have a lot of couples that you hang out with? Not just that you get along with, I guess, but that you truly actually like? Both of you? And both of them?
We live in the same general area where we graduated from high school, and so we have a lot of friends in the area. We have several couples that we both really like, but different schedules and having moved across town from each other have really lessened the time that we spend together hanging out with other couples just for fun.
And then we met them—the perfect couple. I met K first, and we clicked right away. Better yet, her kids and our kids got along great. And EVEN BETTER? They live right down the street! Yes, the same street where we live! Okay, so, the only thing that could make this whole thing just perfectly fantastic would be if Bald Man and C liked each other as well. AND THEY DID! Perfect.
So, we’ve had a few game nights. Game nights where we, the adults, can play games and the kids actually play together without bothering us all that too much. And then we can just walk home. Isn’t that crazy? I love it.
Well, I did love it, anyway. Until I found out today that they’re going to be moving.
Okay, so, the truth is that we knew from the time we met them (last Spring) that they were hoping to move to another city. It’s just that it was all going so well, and for awhile it looked like it might not happen, that I just stopped thinking about the fact that these great new friends who live just down the street (have I mentioned that they live just down the street?!?!) might leave at any point in our lifetimes. And now I have to think about it. And it sucks.
And this is not to say that I don’t love our friends who don’t live just down the street, or any of our friends on the street that aren’t married, or any other friends for that matter. There’s just something great about having a couple so close by, who are cool with spontaneous evenings, where everyone just likes being around each other. And I’m gonna miss it. And now I have to figure out how to get it again.
Do you have a lot of other couples as friends, or do you tend to spend your friend time separately?
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It’s hard to find good couples friends. I have friends that I click with but then hubby won’t. Or vice versa. We finally found a couple we can hang out with, play board games, have dinner together…and it’s SO nice. They don’t live down the street (they actually live all the way across town) but getting together on the weekends isn’t too hard. We just have to plan ahead. But we also have friends that we spend time with separately. Hubby will go golfing with his single guy friend, and I’ll go have dinner with my new-mother friend or my newly-engaged friend. But there is something special about having couples friends. I wish we had more.
M101: Yeah, I think we’d do better at getting together with other couple-friends if either of us had more of that “remembers to make plans” gene. (I’m just sure that’s got it’s own designated gene.
) Getting four people’s schedules to match up on the fly is not easy! But it’s a blast when it does come together!
Kerri,
My girlfriend and I moved to Chicago a couple months ago. We had our own friends (mostly single) who still loved hitting the bars and doing single people activities. Although it is still a challenge finding couple friends with two compatible people, I believe online services are the way to go. We met on Match.com and, in the same tradition, we found several Couples Dating sites. The best in my opinion is CoupleStop.com. It is a fee based site, but I found paying couples to be more willing to actively meet other members. Give the site a shot and let me know your thoughts.
Hi Kerri:
The best site for couple friendships that we have been members of is Couplesworldwide.com. They are the largest and they offer features like chat, im, forums, get togethers which the other smaller sites do not.
In addition there is no charge at all for membership. We have met a few really great couples so check it out.