Comments on: Meeting Men In Bars

By: Lara Kulpa

Lara Kulpa — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 19:31:57 +0000

I really have never been one to “pick up” at a bar… in fact, when I usually go to a bar, it’s almost always only with a mixed group – men and women – all friends. We do end up in our own little world, though, so maybe I never noticed, but this is at hometown bars… places where I already know everyone in the joint… places where even if I WERE going to think of meeting a guy, it wouldn’t be any of those who are there a lot because I know them all. LOL

Not that I’m a bar-goer so much either… just that it’s Smalltown, USA around here.

By: Darcie

Darcie — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 16:47:17 +0000

My girls and I know all about this. Walking up to a group is intimidating, especially if you get shot down. If I’m going out to pick up, I only take one or two girls with me, if I’m going to hang with the ladies, then I bring 25.

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 00:59:09 +0000

I think that’s a great idea, Kristi! The two groups getting sort of mingle-y. That would work.

By: Kikolani - Poetry | Photography | Blogging Tips

Kikolani - Poetry | Photography | Blogging Tips — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 00:06:32 +0000

I think it’s more intimidating to go up to a group vs. just one or two people. You’re not only fearing rejection, but several witnesses to the rejection, making it all the more embarrassing.

I think the best way to go up to a group is with a group… equal (or close to equal) number on each side would make it more comfortable. Or more looking like a fight was going to happen, one or the other, depending on the mood.

~ Kristi