Moms Caught With Erotica

Slip of a Girl found an erotic novel too hot to hide:

I even had to bring it along as reading material while waiting in the lobby for kids’ counseling appointments, which, by the way, will cause the counselor to raise an eyebrow –but the book was too good to really care lol

Like Slip of a Girl, I was found reading an adult book by an eyebrow raising counselor — who actually, had to bring it up before my son’s next session. It was privately, in his office and just the counselor & myself. He started poking around with those questions the way they do… “Do you often read those books?” Knowing where he was headed, I admitted that I read such books occasionally, and sometimes around my children. I told him exactly what I think.

I think it’s good for children to see a parent read, and why should it be any more concerning than if I had been reading the latest Stephen King or murder mystery book? Such violent books are ‘adult’ and no more suitable for children than books on human sexuality, yet those books likely don’t result in such conversations. Ditto TV shows and films; I find neither violence nor sex suitable for children and they are not allowed to watch them — but they know that I watch CSI and Cold Case, for example.

“Honestly,” I told him, “I feel more embarrassed — dirty, unclean and inappropriate — when I’m caught reading past issues of People or other celeb magazines that are left in lobbies. That’s why I bring my own reading materials to wait out appointments.”

“Why is it,” I asked him rhetorically, “that smut is less acceptable than violence or the shallow idolization of ‘famous people’? It’s damn odd really, because my kids got here through normal, healthy sex — not via violence or the vicarious living or emotional stalking of celebrities.”

The counselor just nodded and was willing to let it drop. But still, their opinion of you matters… You know momma gets blamed for everything. And I’m just waiting for this to figure into observations of our family unit somehow, somewhere.

Now I have to let Slip of a Girl know about my bust — because my discomfort could just win me a copy of the novel she was caught with. (You can enter her contest for the book here with your own confession.)

Meanwhile (or after you enter, as the case may be), be sure to tell me if you’ve ever been caught with disapproved materials with your kids’ teachers, counselors, etc. And what you think of the societal distinctions between a mom with a healthy sex life and a mom who enjoys murder mysteries &/or follows the lives of people she doesn’t even know?