Comments on: Monkey see, monkey do http://www.blisstree.com/articles/monkey-see-monkey-do-325/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:23:11 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: angelique http://www.blisstree.com/articles/monkey-see-monkey-do-325/comment-page-1/#comment-113551 angelique Wed, 20 Feb 2008 01:30:13 +0000 http://www.breakingthemirror.com/2008/02/19/monkey-see-monkey-do/#comment-113551 Alicia & Kendra: It's so tough, isn't it, though? We all carry some emotional baggage, and I often find myself swallowing words. In fact, I stopped myself short because I almost told my son tonight that I was "bad" for eating a few pieces of candy. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Katie: I don't think your mother was bad to do what she did, either. I'm sure she wouldn't have said what she did if she knew it would make you fearful of a number on the scale. Please know that I and others completely understand your fears. I dreaded hitting 100 pounds for many years when I was anorexic. And now that I'm finally over that mark, life is much easier and I realize that it's just a few digits, nothing more, nothing less. Alicia & Kendra:

It’s so tough, isn’t it, though? We all carry some emotional baggage, and I often find myself swallowing words. In fact, I stopped myself short because I almost told my son tonight that I was “bad” for eating a few pieces of candy.

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Katie:

I don’t think your mother was bad to do what she did, either. I’m sure she wouldn’t have said what she did if she knew it would make you fearful of a number on the scale.

Please know that I and others completely understand your fears. I dreaded hitting 100 pounds for many years when I was anorexic. And now that I’m finally over that mark, life is much easier and I realize that it’s just a few digits, nothing more, nothing less.

]]> By: Katie http://www.blisstree.com/articles/monkey-see-monkey-do-325/comment-page-1/#comment-113549 Katie Tue, 19 Feb 2008 23:30:43 +0000 http://www.breakingthemirror.com/2008/02/19/monkey-see-monkey-do/#comment-113549 I grew up in one of these environments. My mother was convinced she was fat, and she would constantly weigh herself. There was one weight that she freaked out about, and she'd keep telling me that she was almost at it and it was too fat and awful and she had to diet. Now I'm terrified of that weight. That weight, to me, means obesity. It's just really tough because it's NOT a bad weight - it's a weight that most women reach when they get to their mid-twenties and now, because of my mother, I'm terrified of hitting it. I don't think she knew what she was doing, and I forgive her, but it's a harsh reminder for me to do the right thing by my future children, and bring them up in a body-positive environment. I grew up in one of these environments. My mother was convinced she was fat, and she would constantly weigh herself. There was one weight that she freaked out about, and she’d keep telling me that she was almost at it and it was too fat and awful and she had to diet.

Now I’m terrified of that weight. That weight, to me, means obesity. It’s just really tough because it’s NOT a bad weight – it’s a weight that most women reach when they get to their mid-twenties and now, because of my mother, I’m terrified of hitting it.

I don’t think she knew what she was doing, and I forgive her, but it’s a harsh reminder for me to do the right thing by my future children, and bring them up in a body-positive environment.

]]> By: Kendra http://www.blisstree.com/articles/monkey-see-monkey-do-325/comment-page-1/#comment-113550 Kendra Tue, 19 Feb 2008 19:37:19 +0000 http://www.breakingthemirror.com/2008/02/19/monkey-see-monkey-do/#comment-113550 I agree! We need to help our children by learning to accept ourselves and others and stop judging people by how they look and start looking at what they offer, how they love and all else that sits right inside of each and every one of us! I agree! We need to help our children by learning to accept ourselves and others and stop judging people by how they look and start looking at what they offer, how they love and all else that sits right inside of each and every one of us!

]]> By: Alicia Sparks, NAMI Affiliation Leader http://www.blisstree.com/articles/monkey-see-monkey-do-325/comment-page-1/#comment-113548 Alicia Sparks, NAMI Affiliation Leader Tue, 19 Feb 2008 19:07:33 +0000 http://www.breakingthemirror.com/2008/02/19/monkey-see-monkey-do/#comment-113548 A great, much-needed reminder of how we pass down these destructive, negative ways of thinking and viewing the world to youngsters, and why we must stop, Angelique. A great, much-needed reminder of how we pass down these destructive, negative ways of thinking and viewing the world to youngsters, and why we must stop, Angelique.

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