Comments on: Multi-dating: Dating more than one person

By: Tony

Tony — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 22:27:42 +0000

The concept of multi-dating is just an excuse to not to be serious in dating a person. The reason is, you cannot share your emotions across 10 different people and see what’s compatible. To seriously date a person, and to seriously find whether it’s a good match and to see if there are chances to fall in love, one has to be vulnerable and give a 100% in a date. You cannot share emotions with multiple people and except to have true trust, connection and feeling.
Multi-dating was someone’s joke to get rid of someone they didn’t like and the person didn’t want to leave.

By: deeva

deeva — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 03:15:45 +0000

Multi dating, yes. It is a very good way to make sure that you find the exact type of person you are out there in dating world to find. Of course you should not multidate if your intentions are not pure. Multi-dating is not an excuse to “be a player.” If you are serious about finding the right person to be with in a timely fashion than mult-dating is the way to make the most of your valuable time and effort to find your perfect match. I have tried dating one person at a time and so far none of those relationships have made it to the place i want them to be able to go and when the relationship is threw i feel like i wasted so much time i have literally thown years of my life down the drain by putting all of my eggs in one basket. I dont know if men care or not about the wasted time but i am a woman and i have a biological clock ticking away here. of course there are rules to multi-dating (ladies) that i suggest you ask someone about if you want to be a successful multi-dater and still be a lady to men you are interested in and dating. Ladies remember good girls don’t tell. So date every man you are dating as if they are the only one (s) in your life. I know that sounds underhanded and shady but unfourtunatly that is the way the game goes for a mult-dater. Always be safe and take care and concern for your body.

By: dreadlockguy

dreadlockguy — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 21:24:35 +0000

Looking for a beautiful lady, but inner beautiful is a must. A lady who knows how to be herself, and not affraid to let her hair down. Sorry sisters i perfer white ladies.

By: Sasha Manuel

Sasha Manuel — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 12:32:57 +0000

I never saw multi-dating as a strategy but rather as a scapegoat. Individuals who believe in the benefits they get from this action are simply running away from fears, IMHO.

I’m not sure if it is about maturity at all. Compromise needs room to happen and a whole lot of talking, long ones at that, me thinks.

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Dating Dames - Fun Tip For The Dating Don Juan — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 12:28:58 +0000

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By: Paul

Paul — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 18:30:42 +0000

I don’t know if it works, I’ve never been able to do it. What I do know is that it’s difficult to keep things in perspective in the early stages when seeing only one person. I know that after I’ve gotten out of these things, I looked back and kicked myself for what I was willing to compromise. You know, when you’re willing to compromise even your dreams because of whatever it is we all want or are afraid that we’ll never get?

I just thought that multi-dating was a strategy to avoid that. Of course, it may just have been a maturity thing back then, in terms of being able to resist compromising the core of who you are.

By: Sasha Manuel

Sasha Manuel — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 09:25:29 +0000

Will it really keep things in perspective?

It’s good that you don’t want to compromise your identity for another. Is it to please that other person perhaps?

I believe that everytime you need to ‘relate’ to someone, you’ve got to do certain adjustments to make it work. However, I’ll only draw the line if that other person would obligate me to be someone I really am not. I’d rather be with someone who’d want me cuz of ME and not the ‘idea’ of me. Know what I mean?

By: Paul

Paul — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 06:29:06 +0000

I’ve never done it, it never seems to pan out logistically. While I’m busy lining up dates, the interest with the other fizzles.

Anyway, I think it’s a good idea. It helps keep things in perspective, so you don’t compromise who you are just because of the person you’re currently seeing.