My Boyfriend is Busy & Stressed Out

There are a million reasons these days why your boyfriend might be unusually stressed out and busy…new job, new school, new financial situation, etc.  With the country’s financial situation the way that it is, lots of people take on more responsibilities than they did before just to make ends meet or create opportunities for the future.  Men and women are taking on more hours at work and are forced to take on even more responsibilities as co-workers get laid off.  Many are heading back to school to focus on higher education until the job market turns around.  All around me I see that people are more and more stressed out!

If you find that your significant other is part of this stressed out population, it can definitely be extremely taxing on you.  You probably feel pushed to the side because you know that he has so much already on his plate that the relationship is not something that he has time to worry about right now.  He is probably so occupied with everything else in his life that he just doesn’t have the energy to address any issues that arise between the two of you.  You might feel that you are taking on more than you can handle in all other areas of your life together to help to ease the stress, but that might be pushing you to a breaking point as well.

Even if your significant other is extremely busy dealing with stress related to school, work, and non-relationship areas of his life, it is still necessary to have balance in order maintain a successful relationship.  If you have issues that you want to address with him, you need to find time to discuss them.  Be thoughtful when picking a time to talk, but feel confident that what is going on in your life is just as important as everything that is going on in his.  Even if the stresses that he is dealing with seem so much more demanding and important as they related to the world and your financial situation, the personal and relationship issues that you are dealing with are also extremely important.

The most important thing to remember is to maintain calm and open communication throughout these super stressful times.  If you have something that is bothering you, find a way to talk about it in a practical and non-accusatory way.  The last thing you need right now is to have a fight!  If you keep your issues inside because you think they’re not important, they will end up building and will result in a huge blow-up at an inopportune time.

Think about your feelings and how you want to discuss them and approach your significant other with confidence and ideas on how you can resolve the situation.  Give him an opportunity to digest the issue that you have raised because there’s a big chance that he has been too busy to think about it.  Express to him that it’s important to the relationship to maintain communication and balance so that you can support each other in these tough times.

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