Comments on: My Personal Challenge: Love and Patience http://www.blisstree.com/articles/my-personal-challenge-love-and-patience-45/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Sat, 05 Dec 2009 14:08:53 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/my-personal-challenge-love-and-patience-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38352 Michelle Smith Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:26:52 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/my-personal-challenge-love-and-patience/#comment-38352 Thanks for your comment, Kat. My boyfriend and I don't plan to get married ever. We don't plan to have any more kids (we have 6 between us). Wanting to be together has nothing to do with wanting to be somewhere by a certain age. I'm 42, the whole biological clock things has nothing to do with my life. We do plan to live together. Currently I see him for about 36 hours every 6 weeks. It's very hard to conduct a relationship that way. That's why I'm worried about how long it's taking us to get to a more permanent situation. If we lived in the same town or saw each other more often, it might be different. Very soon it will be snowing there and it will be even harder to get together. I want him IN my life not just visiting it occasionally. The idea of another year or two seeing him for a day a half approximately 10-11 times a year does not sound good to me. If that's the way it's going to be, that would be a dealbreaker for me. I'm ready for a partner - THIS partner, not just any partner. Thanks for your comment, Kat.

My boyfriend and I don’t plan to get married ever. We don’t plan to have any more kids (we have 6 between us). Wanting to be together has nothing to do with wanting to be somewhere by a certain age. I’m 42, the whole biological clock things has nothing to do with my life. We do plan to live together.

Currently I see him for about 36 hours every 6 weeks. It’s very hard to conduct a relationship that way. That’s why I’m worried about how long it’s taking us to get to a more permanent situation. If we lived in the same town or saw each other more often, it might be different. Very soon it will be snowing there and it will be even harder to get together.

I want him IN my life not just visiting it occasionally. The idea of another year or two seeing him for a day a half approximately 10-11 times a year does not sound good to me. If that’s the way it’s going to be, that would be a dealbreaker for me. I’m ready for a partner – THIS partner, not just any partner.

]]> By: Kat Wilder http://www.blisstree.com/articles/my-personal-challenge-love-and-patience-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38359 Kat Wilder Sun, 21 Sep 2008 19:21:33 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/my-personal-challenge-love-and-patience/#comment-38359 I'm not big on timelines, but I can understand if a woman (or a man) wants to have a baby. There are biological realities, after all. But having a plan to be married by a certain age is silly and unrealistic, and may have you marrying the wrong person ... but at th eright time! Relationships are never one size fits all, but everyone should have some dealbreakers. If you don't, then you don't really know what's really important to you. And that's the most important thing; to be honest with yourself about what you really want in a partner. And if he does the same, and you both want each other, what difference does it make how long it takes to get there? You're already there, even if it doesn't look like the traditional man, woman, house. Just my two cents ... I’m not big on timelines, but I can understand if a woman (or a man) wants to have a baby. There are biological realities, after all.

But having a plan to be married by a certain age is silly and unrealistic, and may have you marrying the wrong person … but at th eright time!

Relationships are never one size fits all, but everyone should have some dealbreakers. If you don’t, then you don’t really know what’s really important to you. And that’s the most important thing; to be honest with yourself about what you really want in a partner. And if he does the same, and you both want each other, what difference does it make how long it takes to get there? You’re already there, even if it doesn’t look like the traditional man, woman, house.

Just my two cents …

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