Nine Year Old Boy Advises How To Talk To Girls

Nine year-old Alec Greven, wrote a relationship book called “How To Talk To Girls,” when he was eight. He said that he observed the behavior of fellow students, while on the playground, and by doing so, he was able to recognize what did and what did not work.

I work part time at an elementary school – I work the 3 lunch recesses. From what I’ve read of Alec Greven, the kid knows his stuff. Another interesting thing to note, recess is a microcosm of the rest of the World. The people who are beautiful on the outside are not always so beautiful on the inside. Girls like it when you comb your hair and don’t wear sweat pants. (This goes for both sexes – everyone appreciates some effort). Girls respond best when you are casually confident. Wash the pizza off of your face before heading outside and don’t pick your nose. Okay, those were all me, but it’s still good advice, even if I don’t have a book deal.

If you’ve been reading Dating Dames for awhile, you might have seen my advice from my ten year-old daughter, Sarah. Kids get things. They take something and they see it simply, where adults make it murky and ridiculously complicated. Adults examine motivation – why is he doing that? is he thinking this? is he thinking that? Adults analyze too much.  Kids get right to the business of being.

Here’s a bit of Alec’s insight: 

Well, pretty girls … all they care about is their looks. She doesn’t care about a boy liking her, or how a boy feels about her. It’s just, “Oh, do I look nice?” Regular girls can be pretty, too. Plus, a regular girl has other things on her mind and is fun to be around.

You want to walk up casually — you can’t look shy or nervous, like you’re doing something really important. Just say “Hi.” If she says “Hi” back, you’re off to a good start. What you want to do is let the girl do most of the talking, start off asking about stuff she likes to do and then let her talk. If you mess up, it’s not good. If the girl messes up, it’s OK.

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