Comments on: Not Just Friends – Was John Edwards Involved In the “New” Trend of Cheating?

By: Thrifty Karen

Thrifty Karen — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 13:13:45 +0000

Having someone show interest in you is a big part of it. It makes you feel special and wanted.

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 04:53:46 +0000

According to Dr. Glass, this is a new trend in cheating. Just what society needed – a new reason to cheat. She says that the larger percentage of cheaters in her practice aren’t necessarily looking for sex (although it does follow) and that the relationships that they have developed outside of their marriages come about through interaction at work.

I can remember when my sister-in-law and mom worked for a large company, there were two different couples who met and cheated at work, after hours.

Another “new” way to cheat is having an emotional affair with someone on the internet.

By: Thrifty Karen

Thrifty Karen — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 01:39:39 +0000

I believe LUST is the answer.

By: verna

verna — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:25:29 +0000

I agree — you only have control over your own behaviour. I’ve been cheated on as well… it’s not fun. As long as there has been “relationships” there have been cheaters. I don’t think that’s anything new.

I’ve also felt (on a smaller scale than “rockstar” but as a performer) that “talent crush” people who don’t know me can have after a performance–I find it creepy and some just take advantage. I can only imagine how much of it you attract as a possible presidential candidate.

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:10:46 +0000

Verna, I think that many people share your opinion. I don’t know what the official norm is, but I hope it’s not that most cheat. I didn’t cheat on my husband, although I believed that he cheated on me. S cheated on me when we were teenagers, but I had boyfriends who never cheated, an ex-fiance who never cheated. Maybe it has to do with the partners and their intentions and how they have to remind themselves about those boundaries and not crossing them.

I don’t think that you can keep your partner from cheating. I think that no matter what you do, how hard you work at your relationship, you only have control over your own behavior.

I think that politicians are like rock stars to many people.

By: verna

verna — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:03:19 +0000

I’m cynical, sometimes I think that infidelity is the norm and monogamy is the exception. I do, however, think it’s much more likely that people in the public eye and powerful people (entertainers, politicians, teachers, etc.) will tend to cheat–they have more opportunity and usually a flock of sycophants and and fans just waiting for an opportunity.

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 15:57:27 +0000

This “new” thing, it’s more about a shared interest in something, like a co-worker, or a friend, and they no longer stay within the bounds of their previous relationship with this person. Dr. Glass says that most of them aren’t following their hormones, in her practice anyway. They are not actively looking for a way or a partner to cheat with.

I do wonder about something like loneliness though, after some of the stuff with you know, it makes me wonder if that’s what happened in his first marriage. Did he ignore her, make her feel stupid and unloveable? She might have had affairs to fill that void. I don’t think that makes it right, but it explains some of it. She sure seems happy now, in her second marriage.

By: LP

LP — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 15:49:53 +0000

Boredom. Loneliness. Opportunity. And a lot of times…just plain ol’ hormones that people allow to direct them.