Not One of the Guys – Be Gentle
July 26, 2007 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
Here’s an interesting question for you Dating Dames readers –
You’re going out with a guy that you have a strong physical attraction to and you’d like to continue with the relationship. The big problem he doesn’t know his strength and some things like grabbing the leg can actually hurt.
Whether it’s a smack on the butt, a pat on the back, a lame attempt at tickling, he’s just too heavy in his actions.
Do you tell him and try to teach the old dog new tricks or do you just break it off for fear that this pain might escalate into something entirely different?
Seriously, if he’s that heavy when playing, what would be like when he’s angry?
Thoughts?
Tags: dating advice, tips, communication
Tell him, but in a gentle way. Something akin to, “OOOh, I do not think you know your own strength. This lady responds well to gentle touching. ” Then show him what you mean, all with a smile and an impish grin. He should be cool, though he will ask why you did not tell him before. Let him know you did NOT want to hurt his feelings and you knew it was not his intent. He will truly appreciate it, he is a big boy after all
Often times if I am being too rough ,my girlfriend will say simply say ouch… that hurts. I don’t think it has to be much more complicated than that.