On Giving Up Your Weekend

“If she hasn’t given you her weekend, then don’t even say you guys are dating.”

I lifted this thought from a friend’s post, which was quickly followed by a number of people commenting that they agree with it.

Hmmm.

I guess, it’s time for my *opinionated* self to dissect the said thought. Hehehe.

The essence of the statement is as real as the sky is blue. Well, from where you’re standing, looking up, you’d see that it is blue but if you try to bottle up the sky, it’s not really blue, right?

Alright. Alright. I know you may be thinking — what does the sky have to do with dating on a weekend? Uh — just give me a chance to explain, people!

The essence that I was referring to was the importance of “time allotment” in dating. Some schedules are simply too cramped for dating. Or perhaps priorities differ for each person. Bottomline, giving significance to going out on weekends is somewhat silly.

To further elaborate, let me illustrate.

Girl A [let's call her Isabel] keeps a 58-hour work week on the average and has her weekends free for leisure activities with friends, family or dates. Girl B [let's call her Alyssa] keeps a normal 9-5 job and spends her weekend doing volunteer work, hobbies and activities with family and friends.

For Isabel, weekends are quite normal for dates and is no inconvenience to give up. For Alyssa, it’s the only time for her to do the things she loves and prefers to go out on a weekday, thus, making weekends strictly a time for personal space.

Get the picture?

If you try to define dating in terms of what days in the week you go out on is really silly. It simply cannot be limited to that! Hahaha. I’d like to say that it’s the frequency and the quality of the dates, which the two of you have that matters and will ultimately define whether if you guys are, indeed, dating or not.

*End of opinion*