Open Relationships: On Tyra

Image by mag3737 via FlickrOkay, so I’m sitting here watching the Tyra Banks show this morning and I’m personally ready to vomit. There’s a woman with her husband, and the woman has not only a lesbian lover, but also another male lover. She’s banging THREE PEOPLE at the same time in her life.

Here’s the part that sickens me most: These look like normal, everyday, nuclear-family-type people on the outside. So you don’t have any clue when meeting this married couple, that they could possibly be eyeing you up for a potential tryst. (They’re sitting there right now doing that with people in the audience – Hubby made a remark about someone in the first row.)

The husband “loves” his wife’s choices, and claims not to be bisexual. He’s okay with her wanting to sleep with the other guy, he’s been in the room when it’s happened. The girlfriend admits to getting jealous sometimes. The husband has lovers, too. He has his own girlfriend. I’m confused.

He semi-jokes about having a “harem tent” in the backyard. Then seriously says he made love to his girlfriend in it one night, and his wife came in and the three of them “cuddled”.

Um… what!?

No, I’m sorry, my man better make love to me and only me. He’d better have sex with no one else. And may God come down and place a force-field shield around him should he bring home an STD.

All through this freak-o interview, Tyra’s making wild assumptions and body movements and all sorts of comments like, “Girl, you a freaky deaky!” You know damn well she doesn’t get this concept, she doesn’t condone it, and she’d claw her man’s eyes out for suggesting it.

What I’m not getting here is how, for lack of a better word, “loose” these people are. I mean, we all know that when we get into a new relationship that the person we’re with has had other sexual relationships. We know that they’ve done the deed with others, we may even have seen photos of their last girlfriend, so we wind up with a horrid visual of that person in bed with them. I’ve gone through this specifically, knowing that my ex was sleeping with his ex at the same time he was sleeping with me (I didn’t knowingly approve – I believed him when he said he wasn’t, and found out later that was a lie) and I was wrought with these visuals. I spent an entire weekend being physically ill (vomiting, headaches, stomach pains) and it nearly killed me. It was ultimately what ended “us” completely.

Some people will say that this is “real human nature“. You know what I say? To hell with nature. We’re advanced creatures. We’re intelligent beings that are supposed to act with intelligence and not upon so-called instinct (which I don’t believe humans have this instinct).

Have you ever known anyone who had an open relationship? Have you ever been in one? Like I said, to each their own, but this is SO not for me, and is SO never going to be a part of my life. Or else. LOL