Comments on: Permanence in Change

By: I’d Rather Be…..

I’d Rather Be….. — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 19:02:15 +0000

[...] taking out the stuff he likes to have in the backpack but that he doesn’t take to school: The photo bucket, some photo albums, picture books, the Leapster, and one of my shirts. In goes the lunchbox and he [...]

By: Pedro Vera

Pedro Vera — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:42:27 +0000

PJ is another fan of duct tape. To him it is a magical thing that can fix almost anything.

By: Kristina Chew, PhD

Kristina Chew, PhD — Wed, 07 May 2008 03:20:24 +0000

You should see how much duct tape Charlie has added to the bucket’s handles!

What memories our kids have.

By: Bonnie Sayers

Bonnie Sayers — Wed, 07 May 2008 02:51:27 +0000

My son Matthew is the same way. I just got a few new photo albums the other day at Walgreens and put all the Elementary school pics from the past four years at the same school in one and made 3 sets for classmates as graduation gifts and the other one I organized the last six summers of camp pics we get the last day and will be using this also for showing how he needs summer camp this year instead of starting middle school one week after graduating.

He loves to look at pics and sits on floor flipping thru pages, but has destroyed some good ones. Many years ago he was into flipping pages of mags and ruined many Zoobooks issues of Nicks and we had to replace them all, luckily the Zoo gift shop has inidivual issues. Nick still remembers that and will bring it up whenever Matt goes near his mags. Now he also gets Cat Fancy, Ranger Rick and National Geo Kids and Wildlife Conservation.

By: Change and Change Again

Change and Change Again — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 08:28:32 +0000

[...] uncertainties about change and preference for things to stay the same. This is a topic I have thought about a lot: My son Charlie, like many (most?) autistic children, is hesitant about change and doing things [...]

By: AJ

AJ — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 18:29:36 +0000

This post warmed my heart. I was recently going through my china cabinet with my stepdaughter, who is hosting a bridal shower soon. She wanted to see what she could use of my mother’s china and my great-aunt’s crystal. These are pieces that I almost never use, but I could never part with them. Rudy would love for me to sell them on consignment or something, but there is a comfort in knowing that these pieces of my past — frequently used when I was a child — are part of my present…amid swirling changes!

BTW — Eleanor always carries a handful of photos to bed with her every night. They are carefully lined up against the wall before she goes to sleep, and I find them that way in the morning.

By: laura

laura — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 03:30:21 +0000

Kristina,

what a beautiful story. The bucket is a great metaphor.

You put a very big smile on my face.
Thank-you.

By: Marla

Marla — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 17:33:42 +0000

I really enjoyed reading this. It is so sweet and descriptive. You are a terrific mother. I understand how special that bucket is to all of you, especially Charlie. I love Charlie’s fascination with meaningful photographs. I think I am very similar to Charlie in my love of photos.

By: Niksmom

Niksmom — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 13:48:10 +0000

Kristina, this is beautiful and richly descriptive. I love that you and Jim honor Charlie’s need to have the old and familiar with him. It speaks volumes of your love and respect for Charlie. And it doesn’t surprise me that many of his treasures are things he might associate with the two of you –his anchors in this crazy world.