Point Break
May 4, 2006 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
Is there truly a way to recognize the breaking point of a relationship?
For so many people, it’s believed that a relationship is over when it becomes challenging. For me, that’s part of any good relationship, after all, anything worth having is worth struggling a bit for. It often helps us to appreciate what we have all the more.
But if one adapts that mindset, how can one truly know when it’s time to end the relationship and move on without entering into that hatred zone that many of us find ourselves in.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recognize the breaking point at which you could exit a relationship and still truly remain friends without it being such a unintended cliche’?
I’m not sure there are breaking points, but deal breakers….i.e. cheating. I know some people can work through that and still have a marriage, but it isn’t for me. My boyfriend feels the same way, as we’ve talked about it before, and I hope as long as we are on the same page to what our deal breakers are that things will last and last.
I believe there are deal breakers too. However, as much as I dislike that old overused phrase that people use “we’ve grown apart” or the old “I love you, I’m just not in love with you” I think there’s a lot to be said for them.
I look back at how much I changed between 20 and 30 and realize that people are constantly evolving. Doesn’t that place some couples at risk of growing apart?
I know it might be a bit deep, but it’s a common concern that plagues the minds of singles.
You’ve got a point, but when it comes to marriage there is a decision to be made, and in my opinion it isn’t one to be made lightly. I think a lot of people go into marriage nowadays thinking there is a way out if it doesn’t work for whatever reason, therefore, they don’t work as hard to keep the marriage and relationship together. They don’t care and are too lazy. Marriage, love, and relationships is work….it isn’t all fun and games…it all takes a kind of maturity too.
I still feel the cliche comments you brought up are for the most part a copout for people who didn’t want to try anymore to work things out. I do also understand there is a point of trying and trying to no avail and sometimes getting out is better.
All this is my own opinion.
I’ve had too many years to think of it all and come up with it.