Comments on: Purity Balls – Insert additional creepy subject line here

By: Indigo

Indigo — Thu, 14 May 2009 00:22:41 +0000

@Marye – “I think that parents DO have the responsibility to safeguard their children’s sexuality for them until they are ready for marriage.”
I must respectfully and forcefully disagree.
The best thing a parent can do for their child is to teach them how to make the right decision for the right reason, to have self-respect and self-knowledge, and most of all, to take responsibility for the decisions they make. As a young adult woman, I feel that one of the most important things my parents ever did for me was assure me that I am loved no matter what I choose to do, but that my choices are my own. My sexuality, among other aspects of myself, belongs to me and me alone – not my father and not, if I decide to marry, my spouse. Neither has any right to presume to tell me what I should do with it, and it is my responsibility to make sound decisions regarding it.
THAT is why the Purity Ball phenomenon – incestuous overtones aside – is wholly misguided. Fathers can show their daughters that they love them and want them to do the right thing without attempting to take possession of them.

By: Ordinary Girl

Ordinary Girl — Tue, 12 May 2009 02:42:19 +0000

Yes, because we all know that the most important feature of a woman is her virginity. Once it’s gone she loses her worth except for making babies for her husband.

By: Hazel

Hazel — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 11:29:55 +0000

I am a Christian and although I have made a choice to wait at age 11 I still think that it is full on. I am still waiting at age 21 and I would have loved for my dad to have encouraged me in my stand to remain a virgin until my wedding day, but I don’t think I would like him to take me to a Purty Ball. It is not bad but just too much.

By: Wesley Triplett

Wesley Triplett — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:50:10 +0000

You are right when you say that you may not understand the word covering. It means nothing more then what fathers and mothers do on the everyday. By covering my child I am being a parent watching out for her helping her make decisions the regular things that parents do. The word covering is a biblical term when broken down means the person in charge of our responsible for.

By: sabrina

sabrina — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 19:42:36 +0000

Thank You Wesley for your comment.

By: that girl

that girl — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 19:01:35 +0000

Wesley, I think the ‘creepy’ factor for most is not the loving, protective, Godly intentions of these dads.. it is the dads’ declaration of ‘covering’ and protecting the daughters’ virginity. I’ve gone back and re-read it though and maybe I’ve misunderstood the term “covering”.. maybe you could shed some light if you’ve cooled down a bit?

By: Wesley Triplett

Wesley Triplett — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 16:17:59 +0000

With all the young people out here having babies you would think that we all would be coming up with ideas to help them succeed in life. But instead all you all do is make fun of and laugh at those that care for there children enogh to make them the most important thing so that they don’t have to look for that in our things like sex and drugs. I will put this out on the table if this is so creepy then you do something about the high and steady going up rate of teen pregnancy. If you are not bold to stand up then shut up.

By: Supernanny Rules 3 Doors Down

Supernanny Rules 3 Doors Down — Tue, 27 May 2008 20:28:16 +0000

[...] even talk about parties, if you want to call a Purity Ball a party. There’s some interesting conversation regarding this subject. I’ve never heard [...]

By: Lynette

Lynette — Sat, 24 May 2008 13:03:19 +0000

Part of me thinks its got the right thought behind it, but uh…just too creepy the way its followed through. I totally do not see my husband doing that with his daughters!

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 23 May 2008 17:47:36 +0000

I agree with Marye, Tanyetta, and Sabrina. Parents need to take a more active role instead of letting kids them fend for themselves. I’ve worked with teens for years and it has been my experience that they’re having sex to get approval, attention, and “love” from someone because they’re usually not getting the love they need from their fathers. No, it’s not every case, but I’ve found that teens who don’t have a positive and involved father in their lives are having sex earlier than the ones that do. It’s just SICK to hear of 14 year olds getting on birth control and their parents taking them to the doctor to get it. They’d rather shove a pill down their throat to prevent pregnancy then to deal with raising a child. Many people have been pregnant and lived through it. You can prevent pregnancy, but it doesn’t stop all the pain and hurt that comes from being used by people and giving up a part of yourself. Sex is an intimate act and should be treated as such, instead of teenagers being told it’s ok to do “what’s natural” and us saying that they’re just “fulfilling their desires”.