Real Life Mean Girls
How many of you have seen the Lindsay Lohan movie Mean Girls? How many of you have teenage daughters and actually know how they act when they are not around you? Furthermore, how many of you care to know?
Last night a close friend of mine phoned and was very anxious about some harassment her teen daughter was enduring via the internet and more specifically, MySpace.
Now, before anyone starts getting all up into the MySpace thing, let me point out that this particular mother actually monitors her daughter’s online activity and only allowed a MySpace profile IF the mother’s MySpace was added as a friend and if the profile were private. So if any of you have kids that are wanting a MySpace, I’d highly recommend you speak to my friend and taking a few lessons.
Perhaps I am a Lifetime movie addict or perhaps I place too much stock in the news – but over the last few years, I’ve seen a HUGE increase in the number of bullies that are born to a pink blanket, rather than blue. Girls are vicious!
Teen girls are being harassed, chased down with cars, threatened and even beaten or killed out of nothing but pure jealousy. And its high time parents wake up and realize their daughter could be one of those being harassed or even one of those who’s doing the harassing.
Over the course of this little fiasco, my friend phoned the boy who has found himself caught in the middle of his psycho girlfriend and the girls he’d like to have as friends. Not only was my friend able to talk to the boy and ask him to refrain from speaking to her daughter at school and placing her in harms way of his psycho girlfriend, she was also able to speak to his parents.
As it turns out, this little girlfriend of his has a history of inappropriate behavior and some of it quite shocking. It seems that in an act of jealous rage, this girl tried to run another over with her car. Shocking, isn’t it?
What’s even worse, is when other concerned parents phone this girls mother, she lets them know she’d rather not get involved. Personally, I think she should have thought of that before she chose to have children. But that’s just me!
I encourage every parent to take stock and interest in the online activity of their children! Talk to them. Pay attention to when they seem a little down or distant from the rest of the family. Much of this could indicate they are being bullied.
I’m very interested in reading your stories and experiences with bullies and how you dealt with them. Perhaps you were the bully at some point and had conscience enough to seek forgiveness.
Bullies are becoming more and more a problem that seems to get little attention until it escalates into a Columbine. But what can be done now?
How can my friend protect her daughter? How can my friend encourage help for this other girl when her mother cares so little? How can I keep my boys from ending up with a psycho girlfriend like that?
Anyone? Ideas? Anyone?
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Wow, it sounds like that girl is more than a jealous bully. She may be a psychopath. Has anyone talked to the school counselor and principal about her? What about social services? Her mother’s unwillingness to get help for her is close to child abuse. If she doesn’t get help, her next episode could get someone killed.
If the school authorities aren’t willing to step in and she threatens your friend’s daughter again, I’d report her to the police and make sure they know about her past history, too. The police take these bullies a lot more seriously than they used to.
Gayla,
This is horrible! I think girls are getting to be as bad as we used to think boys were. I remember being bullied by boys but girls just snubbed me and were mean. I really never feared for my physical safety from girls… I guess things have changed a LOT!
One trend that I notice is girl on girl fighting. Isn’t it hilarious to see two women fighting, it started bothering me with Mariah Carey’s video where she’s fighting herself in the bathroom. Another example is when I saw a beer commercial with Ginger & Mary-Ann fighting. It’s evident that some men think it’s sexy for women to fight eachother so I think young girls are reacting to that and fighting to gain their attention.
I hope things get better for this girl.
Update from my friend: Apparently the boy that was caught in the middle has broken up with the bully girl.
I personally don’t think that’s the final answer, nor does anyone else involved.
I’ve discussed things with the mother of the girl that’s being harassed and suggested she call social services.
Bullying is one thing I don’t take too lightly. It was 29 years ago yesterday that my older brother died because of a bully who hit him in the head resulting in a stroke.
It’s so sad that school isn’t even a safe place for kids anymore.
There’s so many things that could be blogged on this topic!
Thanks for your comments
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This is a horrid story. Teenage girls really are getting worse and worse in the bullying respect. My daughter went through a terrible experience with some bullies. The final straw was when the principal told me the bullying didn’t happen and he knew this because he had talked to the bulliers friends! They knew better than to lie to him. I couldn’t believe a principal could be so naive! I promptly pulled my daughter from his school and got her into another one..
hiya omg i couldnt believe it when i read that story but as a an actual fact i am a teenage girl aswell and to be honest girls are getting worse in that senarioe because i am aslo being bullied by OLDER girls and boys just because i am younger thean them they think that it is right but it isnt because we are all equal and should all be treated the same but the reason why im posting this comment is because i want you to know that i am not a bully and am highly against it and neither are my friends because they stick with me day by day i also agree with all your comments and think that bulying should be taken a step furthur. charley s x
Ya. I think so. Well….
What the…
I think that’s more than get jealous. So sad….
Bye
I was a bully, a real life mean girl. We girls get so caught up in popularity that we go to extremes for approval. I did alot of things i am not proud of but honestly can’t put into words why.
Parents have to understand that girls are very smart and alot of girl on girl bullying is mental abuse. School at that age is almost like a mini version of hollywood, i know you may not believe this but it is exactly that!
I now work with young kids aged 4-6 and trust me it starts young, more parents teachers and daycare staff must educate themselves on female bullying. For example, my group of kids at the beginning of the year (the girls) will immediately clique off into groups with “pretty” girls or “cool” girls….4-5 and 6 year olds people!! I immediately seperate them and make them step out of their comfort zones and play with someone they wouldn’t pick on their own….