Redeeming Men
December 19, 2008 by Tracee Sioux
Filed under Parenting
He’s redeemed the whole male gender.
Until he graced the planet I wasn’t sure the rest of them were worth dealing with.
Now, I think men might be all right since he’s joined the ranks.
Not sure what happened to bleep up some men – but, my clear goal is to NOT SCREW THIS ONE UP.
He’s a good one. Inherently good. Abnormally compassionate, sweet, loving, open and kind. Tough. Funny. Smart. No baggage, no grudges.
Did all men start like this? What the hell happened?
Photo Source: Empowering Girls: So Sioux Me.
PRECIOUS!!!!!!!
And me Too! I want to make my little men into good, solid,decent, men. I want their wives to thank me! Not resent me.
I have a theory about something that negatively effects some boys – something we could do differently.
I think some boys overhear their moms and aunts and sisters discussing other women negatively..”How slutty!” “Can you believer her?” “What a bitch!” etc,etc,etc,..and they develope an unhealthy opinion of women. They learn (from us) to put women in boxes: good/bad/madonna/whore/bitchy/sweet/sneaky/dumb/etc,etc.. We think we’re teaching them to avoid bad characteristics in women – but I think really we’re teaching them that we all belong in a box w/ a label – that we don’t in fact have layers..just one identity. I think it creates a convienient excuse for them to behave any which way later in life. They can convieniently blow off women that they’ve wronged ‘oh, she was just a bitch/slut/etc.
Does that make sense?
Also – I WANT that awesome little suit!
You’re a genius That Girl. You are sooo right. Women absolutely do that and our boys pick up on it.
Grandma got that suit at a small town outlet store. Love it.
Gee, he looks so innocent . . . unlike the other pics I’ve seen. lol What a handsome little fellow.
I know what you mean. My little boy is so sweet, cuddly, affectionate, and pure. I often ask myself what I can do to ensure that he stays this way and continues to have a good heart. I pray for him and our ability as parents to raise him the right way.
What a smile! And a natural in front of the camera.
Also, adding to what That Girl said, I think it all goes back to something you said to me on my blog a few weeks ago–”a mother’s words are the most powerful thing on earth.” This is true for sons too.
Mom is a boy’s “first love.” Not to get all Freudian on y’all, but if she doesn’t have it together emotionally and mentally, sons end up hurt, which they then transfer to all women, creating a lot of the misogyny on this planet.
Sad, but, I fear, all too true.
absolutely Suzanne
Wait don’t MEN and daddies bear any responsibility in turning them into themselves?
I think how my husband treats me – and how I allow him to treat me is also KEY to how he will be with other women later.
Of course they do. But there’s no denying that in many homes Mom is the only parent, and in many more, Mom is the more involved parent of the two.
You made the point yourself when you said how you allow your husband to treat you is the key. When moms allow poor treatment, both parents are responsible if the child grows up lacking respect for women.
I also want to say that alot of the rapists in the world have had something traumatic happen in their childhoods which made them feel extremely helpless..they say that’s what they get out of rape – a powerful feeling. If we could reduce the number of abusive parents/grandparents/family members/coaches/teachers..the number of abusers period, we would be reducing the number of future rapists.
I absolutely agree though about the daddy point. As far as making sure our boys grow up to be good husbands and boyfriends? They have to see it modeled in their own home. Doing one thing at home and then telling them something else later doesn’t work – they need to see it.
Now that I’m into that settling down phase of adulthood – I”m seeing this more and more in my own family life. I find myself leaning towards values and traditions and roles that were acted out in my home – or at my Grandma’s (I was there alot)
Childhood by definition is powerless.
I think they see rape images in the media portrayed as sexy. It’s all over advertising. It makes girls and boys confused about the violent and the sexual. Our media is mixing violent and sexual so often we barely see the line anymore and their hormones tie the two together in their brains. For girls and for boys.
Women. Women is what happens to men.
I have to disagree Tracee – emotional abuse, sexual violence, physical abuse,, or violent bullying – any of these things inflicted on a child can cause a child to repeat that behavior – overpower another to make themselves feel better – later in life.
CBird – I don’t think women teach men to rape them.
that girl – I don’t think men teach men to rape.