Rejected by eHarmony
May 14, 2007 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
Have you taken notice of the tempestuous relationship between two of the biggest players in the online dating business?
A ruthless fight has broken out between eHarmony.com and an offshoot of Match.com over a familiar subject to any luckless dater:
Rejection
I haven’t seen the commercials myself, but it sounds to me like eHarmony is going to have to stop rejecting so many people if they plan on staying in the game.
Or perhaps that’s what they want?
To have singles think they are providing the choicest cuts of single meat available.
What do you think?
Ever been rejected by eHarmony?
What reason were you given, if any?
Tags: dating, match.com, rejection, chemistry.com, eharmony, online dating
Both my sister and a friend were rejected by eharnony- I was appalled- this owner is supposed to be a PHD? Where is his sensitivity? My sister jokingly said she was going to wear a big R on her chest the next day- she actually has a very good sense of self but my friend said she felt bad enough that she has had to go this route and then to be “REJECTED!” Not even a more gentle “Well, try again later- we have no one for you at this time” ? Who the hell does he think he is setting it up that way? Thanks for the option to vent~
Mary
I think it’s hilarious that a dating site rejects people. I mean, the commercials out there that Chemistry.com is putting out crack me up (the “Still Gay” and “Happy”). I do think it’s sad that someone would feel bad about themself because some useless internet dating site didn’t want to take their money. Why let some external company determine your self worth? That’s just regoddamndiculous.
I think anyone rejected by eHarmony should be grateful that they saved whatever the subscription cost is and maybe do something more worthwhile with it like donating to a good charity.
Spend less time on the web looking for dates and givie your time to a worthwhile cause. You’ll be sure to meet people who share your values and maybe even make a difference in the world at the same time.
Again, it’s just funny to me that a for profit company would shoot itself in the foot like this and that Chemistry.com is paying for advertising that has brought so much press to a competitor.
I’ve met a few people who weren’t worth dating let alone marrying. Good for eHarmony. Their intent is to help people find marriage partners not a pool of people to date and, sad to say, there are some people who don’t make the cut. Maybe their new tag line should be “We reject them so you don’t have to”.
I too am glad that eHarmony is being discerning. I am going through a horrible situation along with 4 other women. None of us knew each other prior. This situation was brought to all of our attentions about the same guy we were all in relationship with who we each met online. Two of us met him on eHarmony and 3 of us met him on Match.com. (I met him on both sites at the same time.) eHarmony pulled him right away with one complaint by one woman, but he is still preying on Match.com with now 3 complaints. We are all independent, highly educated, successful women in our mid-to-late 30’s. He was trying to get all of us pregnant and succeeded with several…not to mention finding out he has STDs. We all met his family, were taken to his work, introduced him to our families, went on vacations with him, etc. We have provided Match.com proof of the situation and asked them whatelse is needed, filed reports with the FBI, etc. But he is still roaming out there every day on Match. Beware of ‘Volare_dolce’ on Match.com … his real name is Ramin Khayatpoor. For the Match.com complaint number and the FBI complaint number google Ramin Khayatpoor.
Dear BA… I have met this sicko Ramin briefly but he never gave up contacting me until today. I just wrote him to stop because I am in a relationship now and his contacting was getting very annoying. Now he has freaked out and calls me in the middle of the night numerous times and sends me the nastiest text messages… so many I can’t read and he calls me a whore and that he will get me deported. He says he wants me out of his country!!!!
I will go to the Police tomorrow with my boyfriend and I will file for a restraining order. I figured where he works.
Can anyone send me any ideas or share further information in this regard please! I will greatly appreciate.
Thanks
S.
I am so glad that I read this site.The Aug6 entry from BA saved me from deception and danger.I met volare_dolce on match.com and he has been using his charms on me through mail. I googled him and came across this and other articles. Then he changed his ID at match.com and didn’t put up a profile. He made the mistake of emailing me with his real name on the address so I was able to google him. What a cad. Thank you.
Well, I was just determined to be one of the 20% considered unmatchable on eHarmony. The reason? I was too socially versatile, and I was compatable with too many personality types for them to determine the “Best” match for me. On the personality profile they “immediately generated” for me from my inputs, there were only 2 of the key words to describe me that I could not see as correct. Earlier today though, I wrote in to see what constituted a rejection criteria, because I did not want to waste my time on the questions if it was cut and dried. Their answer to my question was that they reject people who appear to be emotionally unstable or dishonest. I am neither of those things (according to their personality profile amd that of my government security clearance), yet they still did not say “we will keep your info in case someone does match your profile in the future”. I do appreciate not being matched with just anyone so they can earn a buck though. According to the glowing praise in the profile I printed out, I should have no problem finding someone I like and in being likable enough to start a great relationship. Looks like I just saved $40/month! It is like I have always said: the Simple Ones are the most content; being intelligent and interesting is a blessing and a curse…
i was rejected today, lol dont know why. its sad really, i could see people thinking online dating was a last resort, and then get rejected before you can start, that sucks. Im betting its based on fat, religion, and what do you do based questions.
Raztis, don’t consider yourself rejected. Instead remind yourself that you are unique and not someone who is interested in fitting inside anyone’s cookie cutter/mold/box/whatever. Be yourself……and go take a look at Match.com. They have a wider range of choices anyway.
I was rejected yesterday instantly after spending over hour filling out radio-dial questionnaire that went ridiculously long. Only had about 4 places where I actually typed in comments – isn’t that better description than marking radio-dial answers to one word descriptions?? I thought instant response to my questionnaire response was very insensitive especially for those of us starting out again after long dry spell. The Personality Profile was way off – didn’t even sound like me Gather from these comments above me saved me a heap of money.