Relationship Typecasting

My friend Amanda* (names changed to protect the innocent) dated another good friend of mine for about six months two years ago.

After they broke up, they had a weird year of so of “in-between” where they were not together, but would have frequent sleepovers and be pretty much inseparable. However, whenever she broached the subject of them being together, he’d reinforce that he wasn’t in the place to be in a relationship.

Eventually, this erupted, and now they are trying to work their way toward any sort of friendship at all.

Last night, Ted* (name also changed) called Amanda and attempted to lay it all on the table about their relationship, what he took out of it, and how he still cared about her and hoped they could be friends.

The kicker – he is seeing someone new. He can’t wait for them to meet because his new girlfriend has so much in common with Amanda, and reminds him of her, and he thinks, in fact, that they will be fast friends!

When Amanda was heartbroken about this comparison – he did not understand why.

At this point, I’m hardly surprised.

While I realize that many of us have a “type” and obviously similar characteristics will draw us to people, has anyone ever heard of a conversation this crazy?

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