But, all this media isn’t authentic sexiness. It’s not the red or the black.

Sarah Palin strikes me as America’s real authentic sexuality. She was hot for her high school boyfriend and eloped – 8 months later = baby. Oops. Daughter repeats her mistake = shotgun wedding. Oops.

She probably thought she was done with babies and then boom – her sexual peak with Todd turns into a change of life baby and there are real issues. But, she’s not willing to stop her own ball from rolling. Not for us. Or for our judgment.

She’s sexy, but she’s not pandering to us with overt clothing – but she’s not shrinking under a potato sack either. She’s sexy but she’s not doing it for public consumption or casual entertainment.

If I have to choose between what they’re selling as “sexy” on the E Channel with Dr. 90210 and Girls Next Door or Gossip Girl or Sarah Palin’s authentic sexy quality – my goal would be more Sarah. I would hold her up for myself and my son and daughter as authentic sexuality.

I was dumbfounded. I’m not sure what more disturbing, the fact that he has a notion of what sexy means and has no idea what the word ’sex’ means, or the fact that sexy – in his world – means red or black clothes.

After reading So Sexy So Soon I think there’s not a girl out there who can sift through all the media noise about what is sexy to find her authentic sexuality. It’s a mistake for adults to think that their experience in the 70s or 80s is related to what kids are going through today.

I can barely sift through at all the sexual commercials, spam, ads on the Internet, Dr. 90210-Kardashians, messages, twitters and facebooks, etc to find my authentic sexuality and I’ve had 20 years of practice. I’m in bed with my husband and I struggle to mentally banish all the craptastic media sexual porno images and static I’ve taken in all day to get in touch with what my nerve endings are feeling in that moment.

How are we expecting kids to do that?

If you can find a “curious” sheltered kid today – they are probably home schooled and not allowed to play with other children.

Because I guess my point is that even teen girls who are not emotionally damaged, or have low self-esteem or are peer pressured or whatever have sexual feelings, and they should know they are normal and positive.

That Girl – I never realized you had a blog! It’s awesome. I’ll be reading there more often.

I blogged about it the other day..it’s called Josh.

Some of my reasons were not positive – I wanted to please my boyfriend, I had poor boundaries, rebellion etc.

But I was also genuinely curious and turned on by that boy. Like REALLY turned on. Just feeling that way made me feel very ashamed. I had no adult to talk to about that. I didn’t know what to do with those feelings.

I do agree that it is dangerous to encourage girls not to respect their bodies and who they share them with. But I think it’s almost as bad to present an ideal that most people will feel like a failure next to. I did.

I’ve met and dated plenty of men – they were shitheads. Lots of them were “progressives.”

Right now I’m astounded at what kind of negative sexual crap “progressive men” think it’s okay to say about Sarah Palin in my presence. To quote you, “It makes me want to punch them in the balls.”

I don’t know the men who are willing to pay $1 million for a virgin (I don’t even know men who have $1 million) and I totally think it’s super f*ed up.

But, girls give it away for nothing every day. That’s stupid. It’s stupid and it’s dangerous. I don’t think when most teentagers do it it’s an “authentic expression of their sexuality” – I think it’s acting out a role they think of as “sexy.”