Secure Attachment
Adopted Children don’t always have secure attachment. Some do, some don’t. Some biological children don’t have secure attachments because of preventable circumstances or because of circumstances beyond their parents control. According to the book Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents
- Separation from parents through foster care moves.
- Adoption after attachment ot another parent figure has occurred.
- Prenatal exposure to drugs and alcohol.
- Traumas like sexual abuse, physical abuse, and domestic violence.
- Major depression, schizophrenia, or manic depressive illness in the parent figure.
- Drug or alcohol addiction in the parent figure.
- Orphanage care.
- Hospitalization of parents or child, during which children lose access to their parents.
- Neglect.
What are your best attachment tips for secure attachment?
My best tip would simply be don’t give up attachment takes time and lots of it, and don’t ever let them see you lose your cool.
That losing your cool thing is hard though, isn’t it? They know exactly where to dig.