Selfish Sex

Some people date others just for the thrill of necking or petting – or more. Sex is utterly selfish, using the object only to get satisfaction. If a person’s interest in another is just sex, then when they are through having sex with this other person, they are through with them, period – until they get the urge to have sex again. In real love, there is always concern for the welfare or happiness of the other person, regrets their lovers absence even right after sex, wants to be together with their lover, feels lonely without them.

Real Love: your ego response tends to be unselfish and outgoing. You care as much about what’s good for the other as for yourself. You want her or him to get as much out of the relationship as you get. Love is a state in which each one of two people realizes that his or her happiness can be attained only when the other also is happy. As a consequence, each one lives not only for one’s self, but for the other, sometimes even more for the other than for one’s self.

If you’re in love, you will share thoughts, feelings, attitudes, plans, hopes, interests, even intimate things you would share with few if any others. And the more you share, the more committed to each other you will become. If you are in love, you will also want to keep these shared secrets pretty private – even sacred. You will want to keep your physical expressions of affection quite private. You will shy away from obvious necking and petting in public. It is no accident that those who display a lot of affection in public also tend to get low scores on emotional maturity tests.