Comments on: Should Teens Be Allowed Coed Sleep-overs?

By: eszter

eszter — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:48:58 +0000

First: If a teen WANTS to have sex with his/her gf/bf, he WILL. However hard you may try to stop him, he’s gonna find a way.
But all this talk about sex at co-ed sleepovers and such I don’t get. All the teens I know (and since I’m 18 I know a few) that’ve had sex only did it in a loving relationship. Non of them regret it. Their parents know. No one got pregnant.
At these sleepovers there might be something like truth or dare and maybe some kids will kiss, but probably not.
Then again, maybe I just know responsible, intelligent, trusted teens and all these other kids I keep reading about are idiots.

By: Ania

Ania — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 11:47:09 +0000

Not to be rude, but I almost completely disagree with your veiws.I am a 13 yr old girl. I have a friend who lives down the street, who I and my parents have known for about 9 years now. When we were about 9 or 10, we had our first sleepover with a friend of ours. Aaron(kid from down the street) slept in my room, and our friend(female) and I slept in the guest room. My parents checked on us frequently. NOTHING HAPPENED FOLKS! About a year later, Aaron and I fell asleep on different couches watching a t.v show. In the morning my father checked on us, and Aaron left when his father came to get him. We were and still are pretty matured(mentally) for our ages. Nothing happened, Aaron and I still hang out on a regular basis and nothing goes on between us ecxept discussions and regular friend type stuff. We have both lived in vegas most of our lives and we grew up fine. But all in all, it really depends on the children involved.

By: emma

emma — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 19:51:19 +0000

my daughter is a responsable christian girl and most of her friends are guys so she is having a coed camp out we will have a tent of the guys a tent for the girls and a tent between them for me and her father and a couple other parents i think that it is ok as long as you know the kids and i know all the kids comming and they are all responsable teenages that have all known each other when they were 4 and five so i have no problem

By: The Bean Blog » Blog Archive » Co-ed Sleepovers for tweens…why are we even having this discussion?

Sun, 11 Feb 2007 02:12:23 +0000

[...] A couple of weeks ago there were some rumblings about teens having co-ed sleepovers. Then a few days ago the subject was brought up again when a mother told about her children’s school having a co-ed lock-in. Being that I have a tween and a teenager, I found this very interesting. Hormonal teenagers having sleepovers with the opposite sex. Sounds like a good idea. [...]

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 19:21:09 +0000

Thanks Karen,

If I were a Lizzie’s age and had read your comment, I would definitely take it to heart.

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 19:14:08 +0000

Thanks Kathy…your wisdom is enlightening.

Best of luck Lizzie and let us know how things turn out.

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 19:08:19 +0000

Lizzie: I agree with Kathy. I think deep down inside you know what WILL BE expected of you. My husband is a youth pastor. I can’t begin to tell you the statistics we’ve read about teens and sex. I hope I get this statistic right, but seems like I read something that says – If a girl dates someone 2 or more years older than her than she is 80% more likely to have sex. The percentage could have been 800%. I’d have to ask my husband. When I was in high school I dated a guy that was 5 years older than me. I wish I never would have done that. He tried to pressure me into having sex all the time. I finally told him to hit the road. Lizzie you have so much of your life to live. I hope and pray that you will make the right choice. I can assure you that guys have sex on the brain almost all day long. Let me give you a really good website to visit.

http://www.askhayley.com

By: Kathy

Kathy — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 18:55:32 +0000

Dear Lizzie,
You already have the correct answers,I could see it in the words that you wrote! The hard part is following through and doing what you know is right! Re-read what you wrote, your concerns are, age difference, sexual involvement, people being critical… I think your instincts are that such a relationship wouldn’t be a good thing, so go with your gut feelings…if it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t! It’s very flattering when your 14, and an older guy shows interest in you. The guys your own age probably don’t seem as interesting as the older guy, but stick with your own age group,I promise you that you will be glad that you did.
Funny thing about aging, when your a teenager time can’t pass quickly enough. But, when your an adult, you wish time wouldn’t pass so quickly! Sometimes, when I’m trying to figure out other people and what their intentions might be, I put myself in their place…you know what I mean? For instance, pretend that YOU are the 19 year old boy, why would you want to hang around with a young lady 4 1/2 years younger than you?
It’s really hard to be a teenager, I remember it well, and I wish I had made better decisions when I was your age, I hate living with regrets…
Treat yourself well…

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 17:21:47 +0000

Hi Lizzie, so glad you stopped by?

This is a tough one for me, as you suggest, it’s been billions of years since I’ve dated.

4.5 years seems to be quite a large age difference…

I’m wondering if there is a family or clergy or guidance counselor, in other words another adult who knows you very well…who can help you think this through with sensitivity and sound advice?

By: Lizzie

Lizzie — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 15:59:54 +0000

Hello Ladies! Im certainly not ur age but I’d like some advice. I am fourteen years old and theres this boy I like who is 4.5 years older than me. We really like each other but I’m afraid of people critizning me. I mean, I know I wouldn’t do anything stupid as sexual intercourse and I know that he wouldnt expect that from me due to my age. I dont know..I’M confused.HELP!