Skip the Text, Get Your Man To Call

A friend of mine is giving eHarmony another try. She’s got three men lined up who look promising. They are attractive, live relatively close, and do not appear to be cyber-stalkers. One of these guys made a comment about wanting to call her, so she gave him her phone number.

Has he called her? No, but he texts her constantly. Texting is not her favorite method of getting to know someone and she’s grown bored with him.

Why don’t people call anymore? Texting is a lazy way to communicate. It’s impersonal and it’s easy to lose track of a conversation if you are texting with more than one person at a time.

If you’ve got a guy who insists on texting, but you are longing to hear his voice again, try these tips from Cosmopolitan magazine:

*Tell him to call you. Be polite, but firm. Explain that texting is okay in a pinch, but you’d like him to follow up with a real phone call.

*Let him know you appreciate the call. My boyfriend uses his phone for listening to his sports. Every since baseball season started, I don’t hear from him as much. I make a point to tell him that I enjoyed talking to him when he does call. (He has a great voice).

*Keep the call simple. Keep it short. Don’t critique him. In fact, it’s probably a good thing to have a subject in mind before the call. That will help you to avoid those awkward silences that can panic even the most experienced dater.

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