Smart Women: Single Moms In Love

Growing up, my favorite author was Judy Blume. I read everything she wrote, most books multiple times. I loved her! When my sister came through town the other day, she lent me her copy of Judy Blume’s novel for adults, Smart Women.

Originally published in the 80s, the subject matter is still relevant today. It’s a novel that tells the story of a couple of divorced women with children – Margo and B.B.- in their 40s. As a divorced woman of 42, I could really relate.

I spent much of my adult life single in an attempt to protect both myself and my kids. I grew up with a divorced mom and although she did her best, some of the men who came through our lives weren’t great. I wanted to avoid doing that to my own kids. My intentions were good, but by isolating us, I believe I sent my daughters the wrong message. I have spent the past couple of years trying to share a more balanced view of single parents and dating. Sometimes the results were positive, sometimes not so much.

The women in the book handle things a little differently than I would, but we are all looking for the same thing – love, a partner, companionship. I really enjoyed the book, read it in a night and a half because I’ve got to give it back to Robin when she comes through town again tomorrow, but I did find the beginning a bit unbelievable. So, if you try the book and you find yourself saying, “What is this woman thinking?” please keep going, it does get much, much better. I recommend it to anybody, not just midlife single moms.

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