Comments on: Sometimes ‘Special Needs’ Just Need To Stay Home

By: Michele Scheider

Michele Scheider — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 01:13:29 +0000

I too was once like you, I would see a “different” or “difficult” child and I would judge that mother as being unfit, when I was completely unaware of the situation. Then I had a child with autism myself and the veil was lifted. Your intolerance and lack of understanding of what a person with autism experiences and what their parents go through everyday, without respite, the overwhelming seige that is this condition. Naturally a mother who has a child like this must understand that their child has to be FITTED into a society that just doesn’t get it, and make allowances for other people’s intolerance, however, each new situation presents itself differently and it can be almost impossible to predict how a child will react in any given situation. I you would prefer that we undertook the Final Solution and rid the world of these little annoyances you poor Normal people have to Put Up With, there wouldn’t be anyone left. There are quite a number of things that I find outrageous in so called Normal people, does that make it okay if I judge them and ask for them to be controlled and removed eg loud Ipod, tail-gating drivers, people that wear ridiculous fashions, loud talkers, personal space fillers, door-to-doo salepeople, neighbours, and anyone who gets in my face. Do not forget these are children you are talking about ridding yourself of, start with the disabled where does it end? You lucky lucky girl you ahev been granted normalcy, but that doesn’t explain your socail disabilty..a lack of empathy, which ironically is one of the things a person with autism supposedly lacks, you should have youself tested.

By: ISTP Dad : Sometimes ‘Special Needs’ Just Need To Stay Home — Supernanny Rules

Tue, 12 Aug 2008 12:55:46 +0000

[...] you hear about the apparently autistic kid who was booted from a plane flight due to freaking out? Did you hear how the kid’s mom behaved as well? She insisted all was fine and not going to be [...]

By: Bridie

Bridie — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 18:37:46 +0000

I have Aspergers and my mum and dad learnt a loooong time ago what *can* happen to me if I have to go on a commerical flight; hence, Mum always calls the airline in advance to tell them and have it noted on our booking, tells both the ground crew and flight crew about my…err…difficulties etc. We’re not in the USA but have always found airlines etc go out of their way to make things as easy as possible for me…but they can’t help if people aren’t willing to be open & honest about their ’special needs’ in advance! I would *never* get on a ‘plane with other people pretending that I am ‘normal’ or that ‘normal’ is what I need or am entitled to.

(I do definitely agree that all the American e-friends I have seem to have a syndrome to blame for absolutely everything though! Your kid is a total, spoilt, out-of-control brat but of course they can’t help it – or be held responsible for it – can they, because they have been diagnosed with ‘total, spoilt, out-of-control brat syndrome’ !?!)

By: Avin

Avin — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 18:18:48 +0000

Most of the comments here simply come from people who are not suffering from any disease themselves and expect themselves not to suffer from any in future. They are simply GOD since he is the only one who can say confidently that there will be no disability in future.

A guy suffering from cancer will know what is the pain – similarly the mom with the autistic kid knows the suffering. Everyone else are just preachers.

I think one should be firstly qualified to comment – should have enough knowledge about autism , tantrums etc.before commeting.

By: bamababe

bamababe — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 02:11:47 +0000

Having a family member with autism is very difficult. I have learned to prepare him for going to the store & that he is expected to behave a certain way. I would never dream of taking him on an airplane. There are times church is not an opption. Loud noises & smells & lights can cause a meltdown. I’m tired of every parent saying their child has autism when they won’t behave.
The mother stated that her other children were loud & disruptive & in the aisleway. I don’t blame the airline at all. If I had paid several hundred dollars for my ticket & children are disruptive, I want to have a fairly peaceful flight ,where are my rights.
I have been on a flight where a 2 yr. old cried for hours, its not fun.

By: ashwini khadilkar

ashwini khadilkar — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 08:26:14 +0000

This is so typically american. the desire to live in a perfect world without taking any responsibility.Not everything in life is airbrushed and we have to deal with imperfections. Other cultures are far more accepting of special needs persons. Whenever i fly i am always nice and helpful to mothers with kids. as it is a tough time for them. kids get restless in confined spaces. you really are insensitive to other peoples feelings. so typically american

By: rtmike

rtmike — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 20:26:56 +0000

Karma’s a bitch Gayla.

By: Jenni

Jenni — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 16:23:28 +0000

Get educated…http://www.autismspeaks.org/.

By: Jenni

Jenni — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 16:02:24 +0000

I know you did this post for hits. It’s sickening. I have two sons with special needs. It is so difficult for the child. As adults we, *YOU*, should be able to behave better. Try some compassion. Try some understanding. How would you feel if you were trapped in your own mind? How would YOU feel if you panicked in crowds? Or couldn’t communicate what you were feeling!? You are an adult. It is not an accomadation to have compassion for the child and the mother. It is human. It is human to put the child’s needs first.

Oh, and to the other commenters talking about “normal”. Normal children can control their fits. Autistic children can NOT! They can not be tamed or brought down. They do not throw fits to be bad or disrespectful. Please, read about autism before you speak on it!

I hope there are more people like me in this world and less like you and some of your commenters.

By: Josh

Josh — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 05:46:30 +0000

akigko… If I were to say that your comment is borderline psychotic, immature and scary not to mention saying that you are goin to pray to god that someone feels pain? Does that make me un compassionate? I’m sure GOD work’s in the ways of making people feel hurt… Gimi a break! Try looking past the surface and look at what the meaning behind the artical is. She was not focusing disabilities as a whole just when it is used and abused! Go re-read your post and pity yourself at some of the words YOU said especialy using GOD as a tool against someone… I’m sure he appreciates you for that.