Sometimes There’s Unfinished Business

In 1993, I separated from my husband. It wasn’t a clean break and I won’t go into details, but there were still a lot of unresolved feelings. In the Summer of 1997, we had a short reconciliation which resulted in the birth of my youngest daughter. By the Fall of 1997, we cut the ties finally. 

Prior to reconciling, I felt compelled to somehow work things out with him. After the birth of Sarah, I no longer felt that way. I think that she was our “unfinished business.”  Since 1998, I’ve never looked back and I am 100% content with the choices we made.

Growing up, my parents made the same sort of decisions. In fact, my dad has been married 6 times, but to only 3 women. Sometimes there’s something inside that makes you say, “Hey, lets give this another try.” It might be feelings of love or perhaps just the unwillingness to let go. It could also have something to do with family, children, or even a fear of being alone. 

In my experience, it doesn’t work out. The same problems somehow crop up in new ways. It sucks really. The idea of a second chance is very romantic, isn’t it?

I read today that Robin Wright Penn and Sean Penn, famous try-it-againers, are again heading for divorce.

The actress filed papers in Marin County, CA, that state that “both parties have already agreed to [shared] custody” and “the estranged couple have already agreed to division of all property,” PEOPLE reports.

The long-married Penns gave their marriage not two, but three chances. They originally filed for divorce in 2007, only to retract the action and reconcile a few months later. In 2008, Sean Penn filed a legal separation that only lasted 1 month.

Have you ever given a relationship multiple chances?  How did it work out for you? 

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