Comments on: Square Pegs http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 15 Dec 2009 09:25:11 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Melanie, Bobby's mom http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-558252 Melanie, Bobby's mom Mon, 02 Jun 2008 14:44:20 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-558252 Like Kristina said, it's much easier to take our son somewhere involving motion - parks, pools, places where kids can move and yell and not disturb everyone else too much. Maybe I'm a little selfish, but if it's going to churn my personal stomach acid to take Bobby somewhere (like a family wedding), we just don't take him and that means maybe we don't go at all. I don't like to be miserable/stressed, I don't want to set Bobby up for problems that he can't control, and I don't want to disturb others either. As he gets older and learns appropriate behavior (or as close as he can reasonably manage) then he can go to weddings, etc., but at age 4.5, why bother? Really, how many 4 year olds can sit through a wedding or long church sermon quietly? Yes, Bobby is a square peg in most situations, so I try to choose those situations carefully. Sometimes I probably underestimate his ability to be calm and am too cautious, but when something flops (like our attempts at the library story time or bowling) it flops spectacularly and we are all in tears. So, I'm gonna be cautious about events requiring calm and self-control on his part to avoid a nervous breakdown on my part! Like Kristina said, it’s much easier to take our son somewhere involving motion – parks, pools, places where kids can move and yell and not disturb everyone else too much. Maybe I’m a little selfish, but if it’s going to churn my personal stomach acid to take Bobby somewhere (like a family wedding), we just don’t take him and that means maybe we don’t go at all. I don’t like to be miserable/stressed, I don’t want to set Bobby up for problems that he can’t control, and I don’t want to disturb others either.

As he gets older and learns appropriate behavior (or as close as he can reasonably manage) then he can go to weddings, etc., but at age 4.5, why bother? Really, how many 4 year olds can sit through a wedding or long church sermon quietly?

Yes, Bobby is a square peg in most situations, so I try to choose those situations carefully. Sometimes I probably underestimate his ability to be calm and am too cautious, but when something flops (like our attempts at the library story time or bowling) it flops spectacularly and we are all in tears. So, I’m gonna be cautious about events requiring calm and self-control on his part to avoid a nervous breakdown on my part!

]]> By: Bonnie Sayers http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-557989 Bonnie Sayers Sun, 01 Jun 2008 04:35:54 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-557989 I posted the link to a story about Bittersweet Farms. It might have been this story since I clicked on adults and used one of those articles to post it. Anyway this is to let you know it is probably in moderation. I posted the link to a story about Bittersweet Farms. It might have been this story since I clicked on adults and used one of those articles to post it. Anyway this is to let you know it is probably in moderation.

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-551797 Kristina Chew, PhD Sun, 01 Jun 2008 03:55:49 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-551797 More "square talk" at <a href="http://aspergersquare8.blogspot.com/2008/05/square-talk-cutting-corners.html">Asperger Square 8</a> (with graphics). More “square talk” at Asperger Square 8 (with graphics).

]]> By: Bonnie Sayers http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-555837 Bonnie Sayers Sat, 31 May 2008 22:40:07 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-555837 Here is a nice story on Bittersweet Farms: Bittersweet Farm betters autistic lives http://www.nbc24.com/news/news_story.aspx?id=140564 Here is a nice story on Bittersweet Farms:

Bittersweet Farm betters autistic lives

http://www.nbc24.com/news/news_story.aspx?id=140564

]]> By: Mary http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-546574 Mary Fri, 30 May 2008 17:03:22 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-546574 It's strange to me that in 2008 any child would continue to be cast out. I would not agree with that on any level, including disruptive ADD children who often have anger issues and are often shunned, labeled and pushed off as deviant, due to nothing more than their need for more attention, It’s strange to me that in 2008 any child would continue to be cast out.

I would not agree with that on any level, including disruptive ADD children who often have anger issues and are often shunned, labeled and pushed off as deviant, due to nothing more than their need for more attention,

]]> By: Club 166 http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-553382 Club 166 Fri, 30 May 2008 13:14:51 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-553382 Sometimes I think that "lack of experience with special needs kids" is actually an asset. One of Buddy Boy's best "teachers" was a high school kid who taught swimming at the "Y". He related to him as he was, didn't try to make him "normal", yet got him to do many things that other teachers before and since haven't been able to. Joe Sometimes I think that “lack of experience with special needs kids” is actually an asset.

One of Buddy Boy’s best “teachers” was a high school kid who taught swimming at the “Y”. He related to him as he was, didn’t try to make him “normal”, yet got him to do many things that other teachers before and since haven’t been able to.

Joe

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-551381 Kristina Chew, PhD Fri, 30 May 2008 12:08:11 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-551381 Yes! I've had a very nice response from the music teacher who's been teaching Charlie cello at his school. She's been very helpful and keeps pushing to try more. And, she doesn't "talk down" to him---her experience with special needs kids is limited, and it's been a very warming experience. Yes!

I’ve had a very nice response from the music teacher who’s been teaching Charlie cello at his school. She’s been very helpful and keeps pushing to try more. And, she doesn’t “talk down” to him—her experience with special needs kids is limited, and it’s been a very warming experience.

]]> By: Bonnie http://www.blisstree.com/articles/square-pegs/comment-page-1/#comment-546226 Bonnie Fri, 30 May 2008 11:02:26 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/square-pegs/#comment-546226 We are finding that our son too is often the "square peg" at just about every place lately, so much so that he can't even be taken, but that's a whole other story. Funny you should bring this whole conversation up as I was just speaking with his Spanish teacher from a community ed program I signed him up for. She was super, and I wish all teachers in the school system were like him. I told her how much I appreciated her letting him be in her class, and me with him (I was the only parent, but it was a necessary evil for everyone involved to enjoy and get something out of the class). I explained to her how so many kids with Autism are denyed the opportunities to do extracurricular activities due to lack of the instructors experience and/or knowledge with Autism. She looked at me as if this was unfathomable, in a genuine way. God bless her! We are finding that our son too is often the “square peg” at just about every place lately, so much so that he can’t even be taken, but that’s a whole other story. Funny you should bring this whole conversation up as I was just speaking with his Spanish teacher from a community ed program I signed him up for. She was super, and I wish all teachers in the school system were like him. I told her how much I appreciated her letting him be in her class, and me with him (I was the only parent, but it was a necessary evil for everyone involved to enjoy and get something out of the class). I explained to her how so many kids with Autism are denyed the opportunities to do extracurricular activities due to lack of the instructors experience and/or knowledge with Autism. She looked at me as if this was unfathomable, in a genuine way. God bless her!

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